I pose this question as a white husband and ******* happily married for 20 years who has secretly had a cuckold fantasy in one form or another since my late teens. I'd like to state my case using the hypothetical example of a boy born gay (not to add unnecessary controversy, but I believe we are born with our sexual orientations predetermined) who quickly learns that society has strong expectations about maleness: you have to play the boy games, don't be a sissy, yada yada yada. As that boy reaches puberty, he sees his peers begin to lust after girls, and although he may not feel as strongly inclined, the expectations are clear, and so he does his best to do the same. He may not even realize he's gay -- in many cases, imho, these things are repressed under tremendous social pressure. Ultimately, he has success and finds a steady girlfriend and eventually marries her.
He enjoys sex with his wife, but secretly, maybe even subconsciously, he is unfulfilled. He loves his wife and wants to please her, but somehow he doesn't feel quite right about it. Somewhere deep in his psyche, wrapped in guilt and shame, lurks a gay bottom, a man who wants to be sexually dominated by another man. What kind of man? A powerful, masculine man who can make him feel submissive, even feminine in comparison.
Enter the bull and the cuckold lifestyle. Our hypothetical husband secretly lusts after the bull and wants to submit to him sexually, but he's repressed all of that. As a cuck he can live vicariously through his wife. He walks a complex line of gay vs not gay. He'd love to suck off the bull and swallow his seed, but that might cross the line, for him (and quite likely for the bull), so he does the next best thing and swallows that seed from his wife. He'd love to be pinned down and fucked hard by the bull, but again that's across the line, so he watches his wife take it hard, fast, and balls deep, secretly longing for it himself. Our cuck gets fiercely aroused by all of this because he's experiencing all of the things he secretly wants, but in an indirect way that allows him to retain a heterosexual identity and even remain faithful to his wife.
I'll close by saying there's nothing wrong with this even if it's 100% accurate. Being gay is fine, being straight is fine, and being anywhere in the middle is fine. Being a cuckold is fine too. What do others think? Does this make sense to you?
He enjoys sex with his wife, but secretly, maybe even subconsciously, he is unfulfilled. He loves his wife and wants to please her, but somehow he doesn't feel quite right about it. Somewhere deep in his psyche, wrapped in guilt and shame, lurks a gay bottom, a man who wants to be sexually dominated by another man. What kind of man? A powerful, masculine man who can make him feel submissive, even feminine in comparison.
Enter the bull and the cuckold lifestyle. Our hypothetical husband secretly lusts after the bull and wants to submit to him sexually, but he's repressed all of that. As a cuck he can live vicariously through his wife. He walks a complex line of gay vs not gay. He'd love to suck off the bull and swallow his seed, but that might cross the line, for him (and quite likely for the bull), so he does the next best thing and swallows that seed from his wife. He'd love to be pinned down and fucked hard by the bull, but again that's across the line, so he watches his wife take it hard, fast, and balls deep, secretly longing for it himself. Our cuck gets fiercely aroused by all of this because he's experiencing all of the things he secretly wants, but in an indirect way that allows him to retain a heterosexual identity and even remain faithful to his wife.
I'll close by saying there's nothing wrong with this even if it's 100% accurate. Being gay is fine, being straight is fine, and being anywhere in the middle is fine. Being a cuckold is fine too. What do others think? Does this make sense to you?
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