@Janice K : whats the name of the movie? I'm interested in watching it with my wifeJust try a little of it at a time.. You might even try a video with mostly a white guy and white girl and then just a little short part with a black guy coming into the picture. For example, I recently saw a video on either HBO or SHOWTIME, not sure which one but the white husband and wife was at a bar and getting pretty sexy and then in walks a black guy and sits down with them. Before long the wife has taken interest in the black guy and they start kissing and getting pretty hot with each other right in front of her husband. A scene like that would be something you could ask her if that was exciting to her or not.. but either way, I have found that porn is a big tool for getting wives or girlfriends at least curious about black men and at least that's a good beginning. I've had a few girlfriends who never watched porn either but was curious about the relationship I was having with my black boyfriend and when sex came up in the conversation, she had a lot of questions so I recommended an IR porn video.. she was so she about going to get one so I gave her a site on-line to check out and it was very successful. The more she watched the closer she became to making the next step. Long story short, she finally had her first sexual experience with a black guy and about 4 months later, she was black exclusive..