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FrankiGoodGurl said:

The marriage example is genius (and funny!).

And when I say years, I mean OVER 20 years! I thought his fantasy was a bit nuts but I played along with some role play- because I love my husband and it made him happy. But it never went away. And he was patient with me even when I wanted less sex due to having babies, those early crazy years of work and baby-rearing, gaining some weight, losing some weight… all the normal ups and downs of life that can affect your sex drive.

But through it all, our marriage was primary and there were way more ups than downs. I respect my husband’s character and the man he is. And he respected me in every way.

I’ve spoken to one woman from this site who had a similar induction to this lifestyle as me! I happened to go with a friend to a Caribbean vaca just for a girl’s trip (and she is super conservative; I’m a bit more wild by nature). And this other woman had the same experience… namely being with friends on a Caribbean trip and being flirted with by black men. In my case, it was one of musicians who was part of the house band for the resort. And he was young… but so damn cute. It made me feel pretty sexy to have this guy flirt with me all week (especially when a beautiful group of 20-something nurses showed up)- but he continued his flirtation with me (ego boost!).

I came home from that trip and told my husband how fun that was… and after more than 20 years, I just said let’s sign up for that website you showed me!!!!

He has the patience of a saint… but as @JemmaNye&Herbi wrote… it’s not just patience. It’s building a “normal” marriage with great communication and respecting your partner’s boundaries… until maybe there is a change of heart. Hey, if my husband had thought to send me to the Caribbean alone or with friends earlier, it could have happened earlier. He didn’t think of it. He did go the traditional route of watching IR porn with me and using a black dildo. But I honestly went along with it because it was his fantasy.

But his patience paid off and despite the occasional jealousy and even some regret (that goes up and down as the fantasy is still more powerful than the occasional regret), our marriage is as strong as ever (I wouldn’t even say stronger since that foundation was already there!). It’s certainly more exciting though now!!!

Thanks @JemmaNye&Herbi for your response here (I’m wordy AF myself usually!!). So I appreciate your “long-winded” responses!

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DCharles said:

This is AWESOME!! If you know that something you do is going to make your husband jealous, do you hesitate to do it?

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ernest barnes said:

He sure ownsyou !!And you love it!!

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FrankiGoodGurl said:

I don’t think of anything in the moment… except pleasing my lover.

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north-to said:

Your a lucky man

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rayredclouds said:

i've watched the video at least 20 times and have gotten off each time. looks like a great time!

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FrankiGoodGurl said:

He is lol! Me too though.

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