Unfortunately this lifestyle has one drawback,,,kinda like standing up in a shooting gallery and asking everyone to take a shot at you and try and get a bullseye, if they don’t you have a great time and go home, if someone is right on target, you lose everything. I started in this lifestyle a couple of months before we got married, stayed in it for 23 years and have managed to maintain my marriage for 39 years,,that is much more the oddity than the rule, trust me, I’ve seen so many wives just up and change horses in midstream,,,usually that turns out to be short lived and a big mistake, but you can’t tell them that when they’re cumming through the ceiling, it’s something they have to live through to realize it,,,fortunately my husband pointed out the short comings and our love and dedication to a lifelong ability to keep a balance has proven to help us navigate in this world,,,most others either stop before they fall apart, or just fall apart. You have to be constantly diligent throughout you playtime, or you’ll lose it all!