So let me say this. First off you know your wife much better than I ever will, but having "known" a few white wives and their mindsets...if she asked that line of questioning of you, chances are she's already thought about and knew about everything she asked you about in that conversation. Now I know you're like "Naw, man not my "Becky" she's really more introverted, shy, unassuming, she doesn't know anything about this stuff...."So
#1 Consider this: You probably think more alike than you think after being in the same place, same routine, same belief, similar likes, and dislikes. Meaning that independently you two have been probably been thinking about the same thing but concerned about broaching the curiosity about BBC, interracial porn fetish. She may have been thinking I'm curious but I don't want him to be concerned...and you're thinking I don't want her to scare her or ruin our sex life if I bring it up. AGAIN...just speculating here based on my own experiences...
#2 Looking at her pics (mmmmmm) she's up for adventure. Lovely curves, innocent looking, and knows her worth. Ready to explore her latent thoughts and proclivities.
#3 Sounds like she asked you a series of leading questions. Do you think your answers aroused her, or affirmed that her curiosity and arousal were validated and approved of by you? She walked you right down the path she wanted you to go...and all the time made you think it was you who were exposing her to something she was unaware of. Like I said in reality you've both been thinking about it but didn't have a way to bring it up. I only say this because most of my "married white partners' told me they've always thought about it but never entertained being with a black guy until my husband brought it up...then I "let him talk me into it." She wants you to think it was more your idea than hers...will make her feel better about enjoying.
#4 It's a win-win-win for both of y'all. Next time y'all watch a wildcat game...tease her a bit.
#5 You guys are about to be on your way...and on the same page.