Would be nice indeed if women would act like you said. From years of experience I can confirm it does not work like that.
My wife for example has very selective taste. She does turn up only from very few men. They need to be exactly for her taste. Secondly women are so kind. My wife feels like even talking via internet with someone else feels like betraying me. What is good is that she loves to watch porn alone and with me. In porn it is always interracial as she thinks that sex looks the best when black man with big cock is fucking white woman.
Still despite of having talked for years and both are interested of the lifestyle she is too shy and does not want to do it now. Maybe later, what is later then? It is a long walk and probably won't happen for majority of the couples. Is it good or bad then? Well, can't say as never have tried.. Anyways it will never be humiliation or similar for us. We appreciate each other and would have a bbc who appreciates both of us and our marriage.
Hard to say what happens in the future. Maybe something, maybe not. She was almost registering to this forum but then backed off. Thinking this site is too perv. Not to say she is wrong, can see very twisted topics and postings here and there