Turning IR cuckold fantasies into reality or keeping it a fantasy

Thank you so much, I’m glad you found my response helpful ?. I am very empathetic to the difficulty cuckolds have when transitioning to his lifestyle. I think the community makes a huge mistake when discussing the cuckold lifestyle while glosing over the challenges and difficulities. There are many “bumps in the road” so to speak, but for every problem there is a solution.
Yes, there are many 'bumps in the road', but often the cucks don't even get as far as broaching the subject with their partners, I never did when I was with my previous partners. Fear of being seen as a pervert or similar, and the accompanying rejection prevented me and I'm sure prevents other cuck wannabes from making a move.

As it is for me now, I'm here stating what I'm looking for and, although it might not get the ladies clamouring, it lets them know from the outset what my particular kink and lifestyle preference is.

But thanks again, for your revealing and helpful insights into the problems facing some of us cucks.
 
We have been a BBC-only cuckold couple since before we got married. This was something I wanted very much and it was a deal-breaker for me. I told her about it within the first few months of dating. To my surprise, she was excited about it. She had never even heard of cuckolding and had never been with a black man. She loved the idea of both, as long as I never got to be with another woman. That was really her only concern -- that somehow this would lead to me having sex with other women. We have been going strong for 9 years now.
 
We have been a BBC-only cuckold couple since before we got married. This was something I wanted very much and it was a deal-breaker for me. I told her about it within the first few months of dating. To my surprise, she was excited about it. She had never even heard of cuckolding and had never been with a black man. She loved the idea of both, as long as I never got to be with another woman. That was really her only concern -- that somehow this would lead to me having sex with other women. We have been going strong for 9 years now.
Hell fire! Fair play to you guys for having the courage to openly express your desires and 'fetishes' to each other. Often the fear of rejection or humiliation prevents this and, in doing so, prevents any fantasies coming true. So, congratulations you guys.
 
Hell fire! Fair play to you guys for having the courage to openly express your desires and 'fetishes' to each other. Often the fear of rejection or humiliation prevents this and, in doing so, prevents any fantasies coming true. So, congratulations you guys.

Thanks! I couldn't believe my luck that she was actually into it. We had our first cuckolding encounter with a Black Bull only a couple of months after telling her. She loved it. I remember I was a nervous wreck in the hotel room waiting for the Bull to arrive. I was pacing and talking too much. She calmly said, "Why don't you come lick my pussy until he gets here. I want it nice and wet for him." That sure calmed me down. I knew right then she was a keeper. The next time after that, she sat on my face while she did her hair and makeup.
 
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I’m so excited to respond to this thread because I have a soft spot in my heart for wannabe cucks, both married/in a relationship and single. Also, my cuckold and I have experienced a lot of challenges with the lifestyle that we have needed to overcome, and we have been successful in that.

My cuck and I are intense, sexually driven people, so we don’t relegate a lot of things to fantasy that we aren’t willing to try. I understand all the complex emotions men go through when they realize they have a desire to be cuckolded. They may wonder what this says about them as a man, if their beloved partner will “see them differently” so to speak if they ever told her about their fantasies. I know that this is what my Cuck was concerned about. He fantasized about cuckolding for a full year before he told me. However, in that time we had developed into swingers and had several MMF encounters so it was easier for him. I only wish he had told me sooner because I love this LS.

These are the hard-learned lessons I have learned:
  1. Trust in your partner. If you trust her and know she loves you, and you both have a real connection where you have faced challenges then don’t allow insecurity to keep you both from experiencing new things.
  2. Communicate constantly. Cuckolding is a very dynamic kink with lots of iderations. If you try something and you find you don’t like it, work through those feelings together.
  3. GO SLOW! I cannot emphasize this enough!!!! If you do have the courage to start down the road of having actual cuckold experiences by telling your partner and having her respond favorably, it can be easy to jump right on in and go from 0 to 100. I must admit we made his mistake. You both have your entire lives together, allow this process to occur in a healthy timespan.
Are you able to explain what exactly “0-100” is? And why it was a problem? Are you saying you loved it too much too quick?
 
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Are you able to explain what exactly “0-100” is? And why it was a problem? Are you saying you loved it too much too quick?
I’m happy to clarify.

We went from a kinky swinger couple to a full blown sissy cuck relationship practically overnight. We bought a chastity device immediately, my cuck became feminized at home, and I began immediately denying him orgasm. While my cuckold was excited and very sexually/intellectually excited my his new role, he had some challenges accepting his place as a cuckold. I cuckolded him by choice, so he used to say “Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it.” He describes accepting his role as a cuckold as the stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. Any cuckold will tell you it’s a process of acceptance.

There may be couples that can “jump right in” and not face any setbacks, but that wasn’t the case for us. We needed time to process all the complex emotions that came with cuckolding. Feel free to ask if you have anymore questions.
 
I’m happy to clarify.

We went from a kinky swinger couple to a full blown sissy cuck relationship practically overnight. We bought a chastity device immediately, my cuck became feminized at home, and I began immediately denying him orgasm. While my cuckold was excited and very sexually/intellectually excited my his new role, he had some challenges accepting his place as a cuckold. I cuckolded him by choice, so he used to say “Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it.” He describes accepting his role as a cuckold as the stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. Any cuckold will tell you it’s a process of acceptance.

There may be couples that can “jump right in” and not face any setbacks, but that wasn’t the case for us. We needed time to process all the complex emotions that came with cuckolding. Feel free to ask if you have anymore questions.
Great thank you for clarifying! Would i be right in saying that you fell head over heels for the lifestyle and that you made the adjustment much easier? Judging by your answer it seems your cuck was the one struggling to come to terms with his new role. But perhaps I wouldn’t be wrong in saying that you fell in love with having the power to indulge in other men instantaneously? Must have been a whirlwind of emotions for you also in the early days of starting the LS... I can imagine a lot of heart-fluttering excitement and the thrill of feeling like you were doing something you weren’t meant to be doing... not to mention the newfound, well deserved pleasure your pussy experienced...
 
My wife knew it was a fantasy of mine, she's seen stuff on my computer and phone. we never talked about it too much but I sort of joked about it in a hinting kind of way for a while. Eventually, the stars all lined up and it happened. It just so happens that she has always been attracted to muscular black guys, and one day we had just enough to *******, and we just happened to be at a casino pool bar when we decided to go to the hot tub, and there just happened to be a couple friendly muscular black guys who talked to us, and they just happened to invite us to their room once the pool bar area closed to get some drinks and smoke. Had we not been drinking, probably would have never even accepted the invite. But, like I said, everything lined up and next thing you know, I'm watching my newly married wife spreading her legs for these guys while they pound her into tomorrow. Turned out to be a really good experience. We are both very confident people and have a great trusting relationship. I can definately see how this wouldnt work for many people. As a matter of fact, I can't think of even one couple that I know that could do this without ending up divorced.
 
I know several couples who had the fantasy but after it was realized the husband couldn't handle it, and it was his idea
It seems to me that women can be so reluctant to begin this LS out of pure respect, admiration and loyalty to their man, but what intrigues me the most is once they’ve confirmed with their hubby/ partner that this is REALLY the road they want to go down together, and when push comes to shove, it brings out another side to the woman, a primal instinct that is damn near insatiable and nearly unable to contain. I imagine once you step over the threshold and walk through the door into the cuckold lifestyle, the woman is experiencing sex that is so passionate, fulfilling and intense to the point she never even dreamed was possible. Let’s be real here, if any of us (male or female) experienced new sex of that caliber who wouldn’t naturally want to indulge more in those activities. These women are essentially learning a new truth and with positive reinforcements like the lady killing aesthetics of a muscular/masculine hung black man (the masculine man is an increasingly rare commodity in this day and age I might add), the thrill of delving into a whole new world, and enlightenment by multiple orgasms, sessions ranging from 1-4hrs, sensory overload in interracial gangbangs and last but not least.... the overwhelming length and girth of some of these big black cocks with whom the average dude just cannot compete or measure up to. Providing these bulls cater to the women’s taste and know how to use their beautifully gifted cock, it’s a physiological and anatomical fact that the women will simply choose them over their partner, regardless of their partners voice on the matter and I’m guessing deep down the woman will consider their NEEDS more important than their partners FEELINGS, because guess what? The now rejected partner opened up Pandora’s box by planting the seed into his woman’s mind and now somebody else’s seed is getting planted inside his girls pussy. IMO women are subconsciously pleading to be dominated and if their man decides to share her to a more dominant male then subconsciously she may see him as weak and on a primal level, not being the typical “provider and protector”. So I guess you could say she succumbs to the bulls stronger more dominant personality, body, stamina, swagger, cock size, more forceful thrusts, stronger grasp, deeper voice yada yada yada the list goes on, my point is all these qualities make her weak at the knees and wet in the panties and all she can think of is making more room for this big black bull and less room for that man who just so happened to make life more comfortable and pleasant on the daily for her in this overly safe, risk free day and age.

Replies welcome to this comment! Once again just my opinion!
 
My wife knew it was a fantasy of mine, she's seen stuff on my computer and phone. we never talked about it too much but I sort of joked about it in a hinting kind of way for a while. Eventually, the stars all lined up and it happened. It just so happens that she has always been attracted to muscular black guys, and one day we had just enough to *******, and we just happened to be at a casino pool bar when we decided to go to the hot tub, and there just happened to be a couple friendly muscular black guys who talked to us, and they just happened to invite us to their room once the pool bar area closed to get some drinks and smoke. Had we not been drinking, probably would have never even accepted the invite. But, like I said, everything lined up and next thing you know, I'm watching my newly married wife spreading her legs for these guys while they pound her into tomorrow. Turned out to be a really good experience. We are both very confident people and have a great trusting relationship. I can definately see how this wouldnt work for many people. As a matter of fact, I can't think of even one couple that I know that could do this without ending up divorced.
That sounds like a hell of a time man! Like you said the stars definitely aligned for you guys. I hope to experience that some day!
 
It seems to me that women can be so reluctant to begin this LS out of pure respect, admiration and loyalty to their man, but what intrigues me the most is once they’ve confirmed with their hubby/ partner that this is REALLY the road they want to go down together, and when push comes to shove, it brings out another side to the woman, a primal instinct that is damn near insatiable and nearly unable to contain. I imagine once you step over the threshold and walk through the door into the cuckold lifestyle, the woman is experiencing sex that is so passionate, fulfilling and intense to the point she never even dreamed was possible. Let’s be real here, if any of us (male or female) experienced new sex of that caliber who wouldn’t naturally want to indulge more in those activities. These women are essentially learning a new truth and with positive reinforcements like the lady killing aesthetics of a muscular/masculine hung black man (the masculine man is an increasingly rare commodity in this day and age I might add), the thrill of delving into a whole new world, and enlightenment by multiple orgasms, sessions ranging from 1-4hrs, sensory overload in interracial gangbangs and last but not least.... the overwhelming length and girth of some of these big black cocks with whom the average dude just cannot compete or measure up to. Providing these bulls cater to the women’s taste and know how to use their beautifully gifted cock, it’s a physiological and anatomical fact that the women will simply choose them over their partner, regardless of their partners voice on the matter and I’m guessing deep down the woman will consider their NEEDS more important than their partners FEELINGS, because guess what? The now rejected partner opened up Pandora’s box by planting the seed into his woman’s mind and now somebody else’s seed is getting planted inside his girls pussy. IMO women are subconsciously pleading to be dominated and if their man decides to share her to a more dominant male then subconsciously she may see him as weak and on a primal level, not being the typical “provider and protector”. So I guess you could say she succumbs to the bulls stronger more dominant personality, body, stamina, swagger, cock size, more forceful thrusts, stronger grasp, deeper voice yada yada yada the list goes on, my point is all these qualities make her weak at the knees and wet in the panties and all she can think of is making more room for this big black bull and less room for that man who just so happened to make life more comfortable and pleasant on the daily for her in this overly safe, risk free day and age.

Replies welcome to this comment! Once again just my opinion!


PREACH!!!!!!!! PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!! PREACH!!!!!!

Awesome post. Like some have said on this thread, “Men, be careful what you wish for”.

A lot of men say, “I would love to see my wife fucked by a BBC”. Guess what, the back of her vagina is thinking the same thing.

Pays...., you make a great point....all the stuff you mention on your post taps into the primal instincts of a woman and she experiences something that seems to be a “******* high” and reacts the same way. And you know what happens when you get that sweet high....you gotta have it again.

Great post.
 
Great thank you for clarifying! Would i be right in saying that you fell head over heels for the lifestyle and that you made the adjustment much easier? Judging by your answer it seems your cuck was the one struggling to come to terms with his new role. But perhaps I wouldn’t be wrong in saying that you fell in love with having the power to indulge in other men instantaneously? Must have been a whirlwind of emotions for you also in the early days of starting the LS... I can imagine a lot of heart-fluttering excitement and the thrill of feeling like you were doing something you weren’t meant to be doing... not to mention the newfound, well deserved pleasure your pussy experienced...

Wow this thread has turned into an interesting discussion to say the least. I wanted to comment on a few of the new elements. Yes, I would say it was easier tor me to transition into the role of a cuckoldress then for my cuckold in his role. Obviously, I reap a great deal of benefits from the lifestyle. But I was very experienced sexually prior to becoming a cuckoldress, so I knew what to expect in having sex with a Black man, and just a much more endowed man than my cuck in general. What I did not expect, was the primal feeling that you described. Being dominant to my cuckold while being submissive to my bull added a whole new layer of sensuality. I am also very lucky to have a bull that really enjoys the cuckold dynamic, so that also makes it very hot for me. When I anticipate a night with my bull and my cuck and I are preparing for him, the feeling I get is like being hornyX10000, I often refer to it as being “in heat.” I definitley wouldnt describe is as a “******* high” though, it’s more emotional than chemical.
 
Wow this thread has turned into an interesting discussion to say the least. I wanted to comment on a few of the new elements. Yes, I would say it was easier tor me to transition into the role of a cuckoldress then for my cuckold in his role. Obviously, I reap a great deal of benefits from the lifestyle. But I was very experienced sexually prior to becoming a cuckoldress, so I knew what to expect in having sex with a Black man, and just a much more endowed man than my cuck in general. What I did not expect, was the primal feeling that you described. Being dominant to my cuckold while being submissive to my bull added a whole new layer of sensuality. I am also very lucky to have a bull that really enjoys the cuckold dynamic, so that also makes it very hot for me. When I anticipate a night with my bull and my cuck and I are preparing for him, the feeling I get is like being hornyX10000, I often refer to it as being “in heat.” I definitley wouldnt describe is as a “******* high” though, it’s more emotional than chemical.

Miss Scarlet, excellent post. When you say emotional, what are you referring to.....is it love? Just physical horniness? Anticipation of the pleasure abd how your gonna feel afterwards?
 
SEX IS A DANGEROUS THING.....Everytime we orgasm, there are love chemicals (oxytocin) and pleasure chemicals (dopamine) being released and when we orgasm HARD.....it’s hard not to get attached to that feeling.

The cuckold lifestyle works perfectly for hot sex because of the anticipation of pleasure - so you are already ready to bust even before you get there and then the nature of the lifestyle prevents the Coolidge effect from occurring, so when you see your bull again (you are always ready).
 
I really don't think it's a very good fantasy if u don't actually think there's a chance u make into reality. If I thought it was hopeless, we wouldn't talk about it. I've come to the realization though that finding the right guy might be as hard or harder than convincing my wife.
 
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