Sexuality is a scale - nobody really fits as strictly into boxes as they might think.
My friends joke I'm the straighest woman alive because I love dick and have no interest in women but in actuality I'm heteroflexible since there are and have been situations in the past where I will play with other women.
At the end of the day if you're entertaining sexual contact with the same sex, you're not entirely straight so he isn't wrong to point that out.
Oh, I realize that. The fact that it's a spectrum is why I think it's pretty ridiculous to worry about labels at this point of a conversation. I think nearly every human being gives some kind of same-sex encounter SOME amount of consideration, at some point in their sexual development. I know lots of people who tried something at a ******* party once, decided it wasn't for them, and moved on. Does that really put you far enough on the spectrum of bisexuality to be worth calling out? Maybe those are the straightest guys out there, no? They checked it out to make sure, decided, "nope, not for me," and are no longer questioning. Questioning is normal, we have no idea how this is going to play out, and yet we're telling some dude he's wrong about his own sexuality?
Ok, fine. Here goes: OP, you're not 100% straight if these questions are strong enough you might act on them to find out if you like the experience. So so far, you're at least a little bit bi-curious, and we'll all get back you about what you get to call yourself when you let us know how it goes! Man, good thing
@Dan Teal called that out! This guy could have gone through life thinking he was completely something that he's actually only mostly!
But the OP didn't say, "I'm 100% straight, and rigidly so." He said, "I'm straight, but I think I might want to try something." Maybe he already knows that the result of a growing desire could be that he winds up identifying as at least a little bit bi. Why does whether or not he realizes that possibly matter, to ANYONE ELSE?
As you point out, even though you have experimented, your friends have deemed that it's rare enough that you're the straightest woman alive. It's cool that you don't identify that way, and consider yourself heteroflexible, but I bet nobody is following you around the internet policing the terms you use to describe your sexual preference. We only do that to men. Why is that?
You're one of my favorite posters here,
@avaadore . I sincerely don't mean for this to sound in any way confrontational. I'm just pointing out something that drives me absolutely crazy. Men are conditioned to think there's something wrong with them if a single bisexual thought crosses their mind. And if there's even a short period where they consider (or God forbid, actually) acting on it, they suddenly have to change their entire identity. People will throw it in their face. Sometimes they'll follow it up with, "not that there's anything wrong with that," but if there's nothing wrong with it, why bother pointing it out? It's like straight guys are worried that if someone who's even slightly less than 100% sure they're 100% straight is allowed to pass as straight, it might mean their own bullshit machismo identity is lessened. We always have to go around making sure there's a different label for people we think less of, or how will others know we're better than they are? Evangelicals have tried to say their own marriages were less special if gay folks were allowed to call their partnerships marriages too. People who are gay (not that there's anything wrong with that) should have fewer rights, because otherwise they'll ruin the sanctity of the sacrament of marriage!
I can't come up with a single bit of good that comes from internet trolls hollering, "you're not straight!" What in the world is accomplished?
