Question for the hotwives/couples. Looking for the woman point of view. What did you do to separate the feelings of love from just having sex with someone else? We all have certain attractions we are looking for in a person whether it be another man or woman. Life has programmed us to be monogomous, especially after we've found "that one" mate. We have our spouse whom we love and depend on. They care for us and protect us, pay the bills, raise families, and who we chose to spend the rest of our lives with...blah, blah, blah. Now, after years of this conditioning, my husband tells me to feel free to be a hotwife, but only for sex? My brain can't understand this. Porn isn't our thing and we are not party goers, but we are open minded. The fantasies on B2W are not mainstream and sometimes down right scary. We are wondering if the searching, screening, preparations, planning, getting the timing just right is all worth it. It feels like searching for another mate, but just for sex. And that seems very shallow and selfish knowing it could go really wrong, really quick. The dynamics of it all is scrambling my brain!