Remaining Pure- Virgin

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Dom22, Feb 17, 2013.

  1. Dom22

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    Hi,

    I am a 22 year old man, white, and a virgin. By choice.

    You can only lose your virginity once, and i don't want to lose it to just anyone. So i chose not to lose virginity. What do you think of it, is that a good thing, or bad thing?

    Because most people are suprised, getting compliments from women, that they wish they had'nt lost their virginity at an early age. Or they think i lie, it's easier for a woman to prove they are still Virgins then for a man ofcourse. Only way to show i am still a virgin, is by losing it. Because Virgins cum fast.

    So, as i said, what do you think of it?
     
  2. willsrvu

    willsrvu Administrator Real Person Gold Member

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    Neither good nor bad and as this is your choice, I wish you the best of luck with it.

    However, why are you on this website? It certainly seems a strange choice of venue for a virgin male who plans to stay that way until he meets the right partner.
     
  3. Torpedo

    Torpedo Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    There is Miss Right and there are a lot of Miss Right Now's. It is better to carefully experiment before marriage. By carefully I mean safe sex. If you stay a virgin until you are married I guarantee at some point you are going to wonder what you might have missed. Experimenting now is a lot better. But it is your life and your choice. I like pussy way too much to be celibate.
     
  4. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Dom22, you do what you feel is right for YOU, not what others feel you should do. If you feel you should save your first monogomous sexual experience until you marry, you should do just that. If you are devoted to your religion, or your moral fabric is such that you should only give yourself to your wife, so be it ... can't fault you for doing that. There's absolutely no crime in masturbation for sexual relief. Don't forget, however, to consider oral sex as a good alternative. Ask any experienced female and she'll tell you that knowing how to give oral pleasure to a woman is very, very important.

    Possibly your new bride will still be a virgin (when you marry) and there will not be too many expectations or disappointments from either of you when you finally consumate your marriage. In a way, some of us admire your willingness to place such a high value on this event; that first time experiencing cotious is indescribable.

    Tieing virginity & premature ejaculation together, however, may be a bit presumptive. Lots of reasons for cumming too soon .... one being frequent masturbation ... just saying! Good luck to you! Mac ;)

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  5. Mariposa blanca

    Mariposa blanca Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    Just from personal experience, I had always said I would wait until I got married. Well, I didn't do quite that, but I did wait until I found the guy that I wanted to share my life with. He was my first.

    After losing 100 lbs and gaining lots of self-confidence, along with actually living life for at least 15 extra years, I started to wonder what I had missed. I still love my husband, absolutely, but wished I had experienced more.

    After a long heart-to-heart with him, I got his blessing to explore my "naughty side", so to speak. No blame, no repercussions, just acceptance and love.

    Not saying whether your choice for you is good or bad. That is for you to decide, and you alone.

    Just wanted to share my experience with you.
     
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  6. Dom22

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    Well, why would'nt i be on this website? There are a couple of good women here, who have what i want. Intelligence, ambition. Good qualities, and considering they are attracted to black men, at least i won't have to have seks with them.
     
  7. Dom22

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    @ Torpedo and MacnFries:

    My girlfriend does'nt have to be a virgin, i'm not a virgin because i want a virgin wife, i'm not doing it for religious purposes either, because i am Atheist. It's because i don't want to lose my virginity to anyone. I have'nt exactly been treated kind by people, i cannot possibly have seks with someone who has treated me like shit for my entire life, that is why i am a virgin.

    Thank you for your admiration.

    Well, about the premature ejaculation, a woman told me that, i thought it was weird to, but i assumed a woman would be more knowledge-able about the subject.
     
  8. willsrvu

    willsrvu Administrator Real Person Gold Member

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    It just seems odd that someone who doesn't want to have sex would be on a site that is centered around sex.

    Not knowing what your concept of remaining virgin is, it is difficult to image what sort of relationship you hope to share with a woman such as those you describe.
    If you are speaking only about not enjoying penetrative sex with your partner yourself, but will engage in oral or masturbation with her, then it is a different scenario than absolutely zero sexual contact. What "degree" of virginity are you adhering to?
    If you don't wish to have intercourse are you willing to please her orally if she desires that?
    Do you remain totally chaste or enjoy masturbation for your own relief?

    From the way that you stated: "Good qualities, and considering they are attracted to black men, at least i won't have to have seks with them.", it almost sounds as though you are afraid of having sex with a prospective partner or that the idea of intercourse is disgusting to you and would prefer she enjoys that with someone else.
    Are you afraid of failing to please her?

    Sorry if the questions are too personal, but you did open the discussion with very little information for anyone to understand what to base their opinion on or why you even wanted our opinions.
     
  9. willsrvu

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    This is confusing as meeting a woman and having sex with her wouldn't be having sex with someone who has treated you like shit your entire life. She would be someone new in your life and not responsible for any prior mistreatment.

    Sounds like you are projecting some past trauma onto women you haven't even met yet. You might want to talk to someone with professional experience in relationship issues to see if you can identify and come to terms with the reasons you feel as you do.
    It would be a shame to carry a weight around your whole life that keeps you from enjoying everything a loving relationship can provide. Especially at your young age.

    Best wishes.
     
  10. Dom22

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    Yes, ofcourse i am open for oral seks, and masturbation. I still have my hormones. I already did oral, must say i was'nt very interested in it. First and only time was with an older woman, in het late 30's, Cup C i believe. I touched them, licked them, i was'nt very excited, i was rather dissapointed. Did'nt feel as i imagined it would feel.

    Same thing with a blowjob it felt good, very talented. But it was'nt very special, i could'nt believe how people thought seks was so amazing, being in love, flirting is much more interesting then seks.

    Not afraid, merely repulsed to have seks with someone who has treated me like shit, who treated me as inferior, unworthy. I don't want them to take my virginity. Not failing to please her, it's more like....hate, rage, anger take your pick.

    I don't mind, everything is anomynous anyway.
     
  11. willsrvu

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    I can understand why your sexual experiences so far have been lacking in satisfaction as there is a difference between enjoying sex in a loving relationship compared to just having sex for the pleasure of sex.

    Since you apparently haven't developed a real romantic relationship as yet, you couldn't know the joys of sharing a loving sexual union with someone. However, you are very young and have a whole lifetime ahead of you in which to find the right lady. I didn't meet my Wife until I was 50 years old. She was definitely well worth waiting for.

    That's not to say that I remained a virgin until I met her, as I met many wonderful ladies throughout my life, as well as some not so wonderful ones, with whom I did enjoy sex, but it was never as fulfilling as with my Wife.
    That doesn't mean it was bad, it almost always had something pleasing about it even if it wasn't all fireworks.

    I think you really need to look at why you say:

    .... and work on getting over those issues because until you do, you are only cheating yourself out of what could be a wonderful, fulfilling life.
    Don't let whoever hurt you in the past control your future. Until you confront the reasons you feel as you do, you are giving those feelings power over you. Take the power back and take true control of your life.
    Don't be afraid or ashamed to get help if you need to.

    Why live with hate, rage and anger when you could be enjoying peace and love?
     
  12. Torpedo

    Torpedo Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I agree you appear to have issues that need to be resolved. I am widowed and have a very active sex life with some long term friends and it adds immensely to my life. I could not imagine my life without these intimate friends. If you have been treated badly in the past you need to resolve those feelings before before you get seriously involved with anyone. Life is a wonderful gift and should be enjoyed, anything that is preventing that must be dealt with.
     
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  13. Mariposa blanca

    Mariposa blanca Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    Life is absolutely a wonderful gift! And it is far too short to just be an observer, like I was for many years. You have to get out there and really LIVE it, not just watch it go by, day by day.
     
  14. whiteandlittle

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    I think it's not true. Roaming in internet porn sites and pretending to be virgin for choice :D
     
  15. Dom22

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    And how much do you think i care what you think? About anything you think? Exactly, nothing.
     
  16. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Found this, thought of you, and had to post it for you ... according to the BIBLE ...

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  17. eyespy07

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    Wow, I don't remember that part!
     
  18. Dom22

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    Thank you, nice to know you thought about me. When you thought of me, what exactly did you see in your mind? Just my username "Dom22"? Or did you think "hey, that would be a great picture for that cool, awesome guy with the username "Dom22"?

    However i am very Atheist, so i don't really care what's in that fantasy book. I rather read other fantasy books, like "Game of Thrones", much more intersting.
     
  19. whiteandlittle

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    As everyone here. So the point is, why you wrote this thread? More probably trying to catch a pussy with the fetish of fucking a virgin guy, or something. On the other way, if you don't care about what people think, it's strange that you felt the need to put this "confession" on a porn site. Yeah, a porn site :D So funny...
     
  20. Torpedo

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    Remaining pure- It is an interesting concept. There is of course a lot less of a chance that a virgin is going to have an STD than a non virgin. However if the virgin engages in other activities such as oral sex or mutual manual stimulation with a partner they still could contract an STD. As far as actual intercourse it isn't like the "Good Housekeeping" seal of approval gets broken:). With a male there isn't any physical change or damage resulting from his first sexual intercourse. Most women have a hymen that gets stretched or torn during her first sexual intercourse. However lack of an intact hymen doesn't necessarily mean the woman isn't a virgin, gymnastics horseback riding and other strenuous exercise can damage the hymen.

    The whole concept of remaining a virgin until marriage goes back to a time when a woman was a chattel of her husband and there was a belief that if a woman wasn't a virgin she was tainted in some way. Personally I think the belief came into being because the men were afraid that if their prospective wife had anything to compare with they would realize what a lousy lay their husbands were.:(

    Our bodies belong to each of us to do with as we will. If a person wishes to be a virgin until marriage or for their entire life for that matter that is their choice. I think they will be missing out on a lot of pleasure. The main reason I fuck and I think most people fuck is that it feels good. I don't know of a better way to spend a few hours than having my body entangled with a hot horny woman. :blackgrimace:
     
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