Questions if it’ll ever happen?

[Hotwifekatie24]

Hey guys! So quick back story on my wife and I. We’ve been together for 7 years and have great sex and an amazing life together. I’ve always wanted to see her take a much bigger guy though. So three years ago I in a way brought it up. I asked if she would ever use a dildo. She said she would because when I’m not around she could “still get some.”

So I send her a link to Mr. Marcus dildo. She said she was interested but it looked too big. Fast forward about a month or so and we end up ordering a 10 inch dildo from Adam and Eve (yes I know it’s bigger than Marcus). It comes, she tries it out in the shower alone and she cums lol. Says she loves it. We played with it a few times then she stopped using it. It was used as if we were having a threesome which she loved that idea of two guys at once. She had some amazing orgasms on that thing.

So fast forward about another month she starts not using it saying the head is too big. We end up getting James Deen and again she goes wild on it for about two months then stops.

Over the past two years we’ve on and off again talked about having a threesome which some days she loves and goes absolutely crazy over, other days she can’t understand why I want someone else inside her. It’s all over the place.

So I’m watching BBC porn on her computer one day and she asks about it. I tell her that I think it’d be hot and she would like it. A few days go by and I look at her history and it’s a couple BBC videos she watched. For about a month straight it was all BBC fucking married women videos. Then it stopped again.

I’ve had conversations with her explaining everything and how I’m 100% ok with it all. Some days she’s all for it, others she’s not. My question is, what do you think her hold up is? What can I do or say to finally push this through? Am I doing something wrong?

 

[Khrises4u]

IMO, not push. Continue to support her horny desires, show her how sexy you find her and how much you love her after she enjoys all those naughty things and continue to fantasize with her and encourage her to fantasized with you.

I'd imagine she has bouts of boredom or maybe guilt about how naughty she is feeling....sometimes it takes a long time to go from fantasy to reality, and sometimes it never does...but "pushing" normally winds up with a bad experience or pushing her further away...she needs to want it and ultimately be begging for it when that fat black head is spreading her pussy lips wider than you ever could.....hmmmmmmm

 

[Hotwifekatie24]

IMO, not push. Continue to support her horny desires, show her how sexy you find her and how much you love her after she enjoys all those naughty things and continue to fantasize with her and encourage her to fantasized with you.

I'd imagine she has bouts of boredom or maybe guilt about how naughty she is feeling....sometimes it takes a long time to go from fantasy to reality, and sometimes it never does...but "pushing" normally winds up with a bad experience or pushing her further away...she needs to want it and ultimately be begging for it when that fat black head is spreading her pussy lips wider than you ever could.....hmmmmmmm

In the end that’s all I want from her! Thanks for the advice!

 

[cutiepibi]

at the end of the day she has to want it on her own, rather than you wanting it for her. you can plant seeds of ideas and nudge her in the direction though. maybe try more story based IR videos.

 

[Hotwifekatie24]

at the end of the day she has to want it on her own, rather than you wanting it for her. you can plant seeds of ideas and nudge her in the direction though. maybe try more story based IR videos.

I will for sure give it a try!

 

[Saxophone]

"Hotwifekatie24", you did already a great job and, believe it or not, the truth is, she wants it and definitely certainly masturbates to it. Why she is reluctant is another story. She needs some trusting help, the final button to open that juicy spot and welcome that fatty blackness.

Remember this, be it male or female, horniness gets almost everyone. Once really crazily horny, you feel like doing anything to get cum out, and that brain doesn't really function properly. You lower your morals and rules to focus on satisfying that urgent and powerful craving. Once you understand, you can be getting in almost anyone of your liking, if you play the game well.

On a practical note, I'm not in your skin, so I would suggest playing the game of patience. So, try this! Make friend with a real BBC who has a staying power, who is good looking and in good shape (not necessary muscular, but at least fit), and who has good manners, more or less well-spoken and a great smile (smile is always a killer). Be friend with him, and in time create to the opportunities to meet all you three for a ******* or coffee, as normal friends would do. In your conversation, never bring anything about sex between them both. Act innocently and in the spirit of comfortable friends. After a couple of meets, depending on how things go, go to a party or club, whatever it is that can be an opportunity for her to have a few glasses (that is if she drinks alcohol), and make your BBC friend invite her to dance when she has had a few glasses. Or, find a way of organizing a party at home with other people (1 couple or a male friend), it can be just a dinner with some alcohol in there. make sure the other guests leave and invite your Black friend to stay for more *******. And just observe. You will be telling us the rest of the story.

 

[Hotwifekatie24]

"Hotwifekatie24", you did already a great job and, believe it or not, the truth is, she wants it and definitely certainly masturbates to it. Why she is reluctant is another story. She needs some trusting help, the final button to open that juicy spot and welcome that fatty blackness.

Remember this, be it male or female, horniness gets almost everyone. Once really crazily horny, you feel like doing anything to get cum out, and that brain doesn't really function properly. You lower your morals and rules to focus on satisfying that urgent and powerful craving. Once you understand, you can be getting in almost anyone of your liking, if you play the game well.

On a practical note, I'm not in your skin, so I would suggest playing the game of patience. So, try this! Make friend with a real BBC who has a staying power, who is good looking and in good shape (not necessary muscular, but at least fit), and who has good manners, more or less well-spoken and a great smile (smile is always a killer). Be friend with him, and in time create to the opportunities to meet all you three for a ******* or coffee, as normal friends would do. In your conversation, never bring anything about sex between them both. Act innocently and in the spirit of comfortable friends. After a couple of meets, depending on how things go, go to a party or club, whatever it is that can be an opportunity for her to have a few glasses (that is if she drinks alcohol), and make your BBC friend invite her to dance when she has had a few glasses. Or, find a way of organizing a party at home with other people (1 couple or a male friend), it can be just a dinner with some alcohol in there. make sure the other guests leave and invite your Black friend to stay for more *******. And just observe. You will be telling us the rest of the story.

Thank you!

 

[spin419]

at the end of the day she has to want it on her own, rather than you wanting it for her. you can plant seeds of ideas and nudge her in the direction though. maybe try more story based IR videos.

I think there's some truth to that but certainly a part --maybe the biggest part -- of making a woman truly comfortable with it is the firm belief and complete understanding that her man/husband really wants it too, for himself, his own reasons. She has to appreciate that the idea turns him on incredibly. The notion that a woman will be sold on her husband's insistence that she needs and wants it as the primary impetus is absurd. I've gotta believe that most women who agree to trying it the first time are, in significant ways, doing it for their husbands. What would suck is for a man to manipulate his woman into it.

 

[MacNfries]

re: Questions if it will ever happen

Am I doing something wrong?

Ok, so you say she's "on again, off again" which is confusing you. One suggestion would be to track her ovulation cycle and see when her hormones are peaking. The ladies in here will be better at explaining this, but, approximately 10-15 days after the beginning of the ovulation cycle women tend to get the horniest, I'm fairly sure. Hormones are up and they're stirring. Of course if they're on the 'pill', that tends to change a few things around, but if its connected to hormones, you'll be able to tell.
I learned a long time ago that when a woman is having her period, don't screw around with her if she's also holding a gun ... she just may damn use it on you. LOL

 

[Torpedo]

"Hotwifekatie24", you did already a great job and, believe it or not, the truth is, she wants it and definitely certainly masturbates to it. Why she is reluctant is another story. She needs some trusting help, the final button to open that juicy spot and welcome that fatty blackness.

Remember this, be it male or female, horniness gets almost everyone. Once really crazily horny, you feel like doing anything to get cum out, and that brain doesn't really function properly. You lower your morals and rules to focus on satisfying that urgent and powerful craving. Once you understand, you can be getting in almost anyone of your liking, if you play the game well.

On a practical note, I'm not in your skin, so I would suggest playing the game of patience. So, try this! Make friend with a real BBC who has a staying power, who is good looking and in good shape (not necessary muscular, but at least fit), and who has good manners, more or less well-spoken and a great smile (smile is always a killer). Be friend with him, and in time create to the opportunities to meet all you three for a ******* or coffee, as normal friends would do. In your conversation, never bring anything about sex between them both. Act innocently and in the spirit of comfortable friends. After a couple of meets, depending on how things go, go to a party or club, whatever it is that can be an opportunity for her to have a few glasses (that is if she drinks alcohol), and make your BBC friend invite her to dance when she has had a few glasses. Or, find a way of organizing a party at home with other people (1 couple or a male friend), it can be just a dinner with some alcohol in there. make sure the other guests leave and invite your Black friend to stay for more *******. And just observe. You will be telling us the rest of the story.

A surprise can go very badly. A number of years I was a guest of an acquaintance that wanted to introduce his wife to IR sex. He assured me that she was interested. She quickly figured out why I was there and went ballistic. Screaming about him setting her up to get raped by a n---. I quickly left. They ended up divorcing and I am sure her lawyer had a field day

 

[NicholeB]

There is a lot of stuff going on here but it sounds like you are very open and willing to let her explore and that is the real gift you’ve given her. Do not push her into anything, continue talking and reassure her that wherever she wants to take it your right there with her. This is not easy for a woman who’s married. There are so many concerns she has to process on her own timeline.

 

[DiscreetCplFun]

Bring up what you've observed and suggest the two of you have an open, honest, frank and direct conversation. Those kinds of conversations always work best. Just be prepared to hear she likes the fantasy more than she has a desire to try the reality. That is usually the case; realize that those of us here are the "outliers." And even among the membership here, the majority are here to feed their fantasies and not try the reality because they are married or in a relationship with someone whose lock step reaction would be to be indignant about the whole idea. Once you've both laid your cards on the table, don't expect things to happen overnight and DO expect the cycle of hot/cold about the idea to continue. Be patient, loving and caring. If it happens and it's great...GREAT! If it happens and she hates it when it's not a fantasy but a reality great...GREAT! If it just never happens great...GREAT! The point is if you love her, then you'll accept her decision about the whole thing and respect her reasons why whether it's positive toward the experience or negative.