Total time in LS: 35 years. Total years ACTIVE (total time minus years out to raise family): 20 years. Clear, open, honest communication is KEY! NO hiding desires. By being open and honest, your relationship stays strong. We've never had a desire to, nor have we, let anyone come between us. Both of us can utilize a "Veto" to anything and "time outs," too. Love conquers all. Sex with BMs is an addition to, not a substitute for anything, our life.