To the OP:
As a Bull who has met MANY couples and wives, the Truth of the matter is...I think A lot of couples choose to keep this Lifestyle discreet/private.
What's interesting is, over the past 7 years I have met maybe 25 to 30 different couples in the Austin area (swingers, cuckold, cheaters), and yet...None of them know each other.
Here is an exception... A Lifestyle Kik group tends to bring people together via group meets and parties. But, even then there seems to be a distinction between
A] Black only white women, who only date and marry black men, and are raising black mixed *******, and
B] Couples who play in the Lifestyle. Not as eager to show up and mingle in group functions, fostering friendships.
My theory is the need to keep this Lifestyle separate from their domestic life. Whereas, women who openly date and marry black men, are already involved in the CULTURE of Black men so as you asked, they do become friends with similar women.
I've had cuckold wives who actively play solo... And taken them to lifestyle parties and introduced them to Other solo GFs and wives, and they became 'chat buddies'
Just from my observation being active in the Life
-Magic Mike
We have actually had connections with other couples "cross" either directly or indirectly and have played dumb - if for no other reason than we hadn't discussed it with them ahead of time and had no plan.