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Mj2008

Mj2008

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Been working my wife with a large black dildo ( 8" i am only 5.5") last month or so to get her open to the idea of being with black men sexually, last night she asked if she could pleasure herself with it in the bed without me, as I had worked late the last few eves. and was tired laying on the sofa, this was a first since we have the black dildo, as I was shocked and very turned on knowing she prefered the black dildo and being alone with it in our bed to get off, to really add to it I noticed she put on a a pair of thigh high stockings just to wear with her black dildo, which she only wears when we are sexual, as she left them on the dresser by mistake, I am wondering why the thigh highs also ..

Please, I need help in what if anything I should do or say next, she is pretty vanilla and doent have an real interest really in porno, .. Please help..
 
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I would say just let her continue like she is for right now. I know you want you want her to take a black cock but you still need to have patience and just let her develop at her own pace. Since she wants to use the dildo, let her use that for right now...sooner or later she will want to experience the real thing. Remember what I have been saying...patience, patience, patience...
 
You may want her to see that you have no problem with the dildo and that she is free to use it whenever she wants. Knowing you want mind and possibly making love to her another day so she knows you still want her will help. But, she is progressing pretty good...some guys wait for 1 year or longer before their girls agree to fuck a black cock, but even they will tell you patience. I met this couple back when I was younger and she said know on our first meeting but a little over a year later she was ready and it was a great time. Just play it by ear and keep your patience and you will be ok.
 
Just let her know that after thinking about it and realizing that sometimes you really are tired and she is not that it will be ok. Especially if she is using the black one...if she feels she has a little more freedom and something to control herself she might get closer quicker...
 
Women love "romance novels", where sex comes out of a romantic situation with a man, not just "fucking". Maybe you could write a short romantic scenario involving her and a black guy. Women love the situation where a man is so attracted to her that he just "has to have her" and persists until he seduces her. She might use that as something to set the scene when she uses the dildo and eventually that might become her standard scenario and she might come to want to make it really happen. If you're not a writer, maybe you could find something in the "stories" section of this site or on Literotica, etc. Give that to her or put it somewhere where she might find it. Get her head in the game and her pussy might follow.
 
Mj2008 said:
Thays a great idea, just she is unaware of my wanting and support of her with a black man sexually at this point..
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....Just remember WHO this is for, Mj ... if she's shown no signs of interest in a B@W relationships, you're likely to be frustrating yourself as well as irritating her. Wives screwing other men is a very personal & sensitive desire, and when it crosses racial lines, it often raises it to a whole new level. Plus, it isn't something you turn OFF like a facet when the novelty of the events begin to wear off. The repercussions of this activity often outweigh the practicalities of it. Particularly when you have children at home, who depend on a strong family structure, the risks are simply too great to risk, as the children are the ones are impacted the most. Just try to realize that 90%+ of what you read here is pure fantasies by guys who enjoy "jerk off" novelties and wish to play a part in it.
 
MacNfries said:
....Just remember WHO this is for, Mj ... if she's shown no signs of interest in a B@W relationships, you're likely to be frustrating yourself as well as irritating her. Wives screwing other men is a very personal & sensitive desire, and when it crosses racial lines, it often raises it to a whole new level. Plus, it isn't something you turn OFF like a facet when the novelty of the events begin to wear off. The repercussions of this activity often outweigh the practicalities of it. Particularly when you have children at home, who depend on a strong family structure, the risks are simply too great to risk, as the children are the ones are impacted the most. Just try to realize that 90%+ of what you read here is pure fantasies by guys who enjoy "jerk off" novelties and wish to play a part in it.
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That is great advice, I like yourself are also in my 30s but yet to take the step in going forward with another man, alot to think about, Thanks for the input
 
You got some great advice here. Remember that there is a difference between you sharing with her what you would like her to do and you trying to get her to do it. Tell her how hot it would be to see her with the real thing. That is what turns you on and it is perfectly OK to say so.
 
Once again the advice is right on...it is good to remember that she needs get as much pleasure from this as you will. This way you both get something out of it and can share mutually in the pleasure.
 
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