if hubby is not into it maybe you and him should go to a marriage counselor. if you get a counselor that has a progressive outlook you will be told what i was told. my wife kept saying she wanted to date. the counselor told us that lots of women date and still stay married. i brought up that she might have sex with her dates. he told me that adult dating usually included sex and she would probably have sex with any man she dated. he then told me i should just accept it and let my wife have her fun