Hubbies scared
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Devondre1201
Male
honestly if he has lost interest its because he thought this would probably be more about him and what he wanted. This should be about you and having fun and your fantasies.. I think you should continue going forward with your fantasy without him. There are a lot of white women who still have happy marriages but play alone
Well, you would be.
Talk to him. Be open and honest with one another and find out why he's not as interested anymore. This shouldn't be just about him and it shouldn't be just about you, it should be about you both. What does he want from it and what do you want from it?Discuss expectations, pros and cons. Establish some rules you both agree on that might make things more comfortable. And if you love him, reassure him that he's your husband, your love, no matter who you have fun with. Communication is the key.
How strong is your marriage?
Do you feel comfortable discussing intimate feelings with him?
Did he really have cuckold feeling or just saw it on here and wanted to see what it would be like and were you interested?
I think every man has a threesome wish (usually two females one male very seldom two men one female). The biggest thing men have problems with is will she still like me after some one else rocks her world. I still don't think that a majority of the cucks on here get cut off. That was one thing my wife knew going in was that would never happen. We do have great sex after her adventures.
I also wonder if he thought if he let you do your thing then he could do his.
Having been in the military I've had to leave the wife behind for a year or more. Before I left I told her if she wanted to go on birth control (i had been snipped) it would be OK with me. One year is a long time. She told me she had thought about it and that is the way it was left. Went overseas for 13 months, wrote many times, she sent pics of her from the polorid (could tell she took them because of the flash) told me about the male strippers nights the other wives took her to. I never asked during that time if she was doing anything or when I came home if she had done anything while I was gone. My feelings was I asked she thought and if she did then she did. We,ve been married 42 years and today if she came to me and said she wanted to have sex with another man I would agree only if I could watch. She has had other men before and after we were married, more of a hot wife than cuckold relationship. I only like to watch when she inter reacts with the man.
One last thing maybe he read to many things here where to me it's BS that the wives have sex with a man with a big dick and the hubby gets cut off or she falls in love and leaves.
Just ask him what his thoughts are now verses when he was so interested.
Do you feel comfortable discussing intimate feelings with him?
Did he really have cuckold feeling or just saw it on here and wanted to see what it would be like and were you interested?
I think every man has a threesome wish (usually two females one male very seldom two men one female). The biggest thing men have problems with is will she still like me after some one else rocks her world. I still don't think that a majority of the cucks on here get cut off. That was one thing my wife knew going in was that would never happen. We do have great sex after her adventures.
I also wonder if he thought if he let you do your thing then he could do his.
Having been in the military I've had to leave the wife behind for a year or more. Before I left I told her if she wanted to go on birth control (i had been snipped) it would be OK with me. One year is a long time. She told me she had thought about it and that is the way it was left. Went overseas for 13 months, wrote many times, she sent pics of her from the polorid (could tell she took them because of the flash) told me about the male strippers nights the other wives took her to. I never asked during that time if she was doing anything or when I came home if she had done anything while I was gone. My feelings was I asked she thought and if she did then she did. We,ve been married 42 years and today if she came to me and said she wanted to have sex with another man I would agree only if I could watch. She has had other men before and after we were married, more of a hot wife than cuckold relationship. I only like to watch when she inter reacts with the man.
One last thing maybe he read to many things here where to me it's BS that the wives have sex with a man with a big dick and the hubby gets cut off or she falls in love and leaves.
Just ask him what his thoughts are now verses when he was so interested.
Yes. Verify as a real couple. He'll love it.
Becky Joyce
Male
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER play uncovered until you see his test results and have some level of confidence he has not been doing everything in a skirt since the test. I worked as an ******* for a period of time several years ago and there was a lot of pressure (and extra $$$) to go bareback - DON'T, there is just too much strange stuff out there for which there is no cure
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Yeah great plan to ruin a marriage Mr single male. Ignore your husband feelings. Well done
Have you tried role play with black sex toys and washed interracial movies together
For the veterans on the forum, you all probably know what I'm going to say...
Communication is the key! Please, sit down at a place and time you won't be interrupted and talk about it. Remind him that he brought it up, suggest that you are interested, and ask what his thoughts are. Be honest and open. After all, this guy should be your best friend, you must feel relaxed enough to tell him anything.
Whatever is resolved at that table, adhere to it. You may want to go ahead over his objections, but you'd be destroying your relationship.
Best of luck and please, keep us advised
Communication is the key! Please, sit down at a place and time you won't be interrupted and talk about it. Remind him that he brought it up, suggest that you are interested, and ask what his thoughts are. Be honest and open. After all, this guy should be your best friend, you must feel relaxed enough to tell him anything.
Whatever is resolved at that table, adhere to it. You may want to go ahead over his objections, but you'd be destroying your relationship.
Best of luck and please, keep us advised
That's good! You shouldn't risk your relationship over this.
Just sit down and talk it out. Listen to him, offer suggestions and perhaps compromises. But above all, just listen to his concerns. However, if he's drawn a hard line, there isn't much you can do about it.
Please, keep us advised!
Just sit down and talk it out. Listen to him, offer suggestions and perhaps compromises. But above all, just listen to his concerns. However, if he's drawn a hard line, there isn't much you can do about it.
Please, keep us advised!
I would agree that he's scared, and possibly for good reason. It's one thing to fantasize about your wife being sexually ravaged by black men who fuck way better than you... and a whole other thing for it to happen in real time. Your husband probably realizes that he can never turn back the hands of time... and that you might fall head over heels for a black man who meets all of your needs.
This is a great plan. Getting him comfortable and talking about how it might happen. In our situation, both parties always have opt out rights if they are uncomfortable. Wife is always in first play driver's seat, because she makes the call first time, but subsequent meets, she might be "my whore" if we are role playing something or I get to play a more dominant aspect than more cuckold ... First time is a challenge for a husband most of the time. Seeing your wife having incredible orgasms from a well hung studs is both highly erotic but can create pangs of jealousy when he knows he can never please you like that.
The key is for you to make sure he feels a part of the process, your love for him always remains and hopefully grows. Normally it's the wife in here that needs convincing so your situation is a bit different than most but communication and talking through how you both feel about it and getting creative with how you try things out and then adapt and change once you know better how you both react. The key is you two need to be first in the whole dynamic. If your marriage isn't strong, it will amplify any distrust that there may be and you will crumble under that...sex with others amplifies your marriage in my opinion. If it's awesome, it makes it better, of you're on the rocks, it will crush.
No! If he’s not vibing with the idea anymore give it some time. Do not play alone. Big NO NO. Don’t pressure him. Find a blk couple who swings that meet your needs. See if he’s interested in fucking her. Make it seem like it’s about him but it’s ultimately about you!
Stlcouple0701
Couple
Why do people that are single say it’s not about both? When your married and playing with anyone else it is absolutely about what BOTH husband and wife get out of it. Those saying it’s all about her clearly haven’t ever been married or understand the principals or concept of marriage.
It is about both individuals. I said find a black couple tht swings and have them join.
Stlcouple0701
Couple
I didn’t quote your post I’m saying that to the men and woman out there advocating people to do stuff without their spouses permission
Blonde moment. Sorry. I agree with you ?
I hate thirsty dudes who say play without your spouse. That is a big NO NO. Just something unsettling about a dude who would suggest tht.
