Honestly, when I first joined, I almost left shortly thereafter. Reading some of the comments made me wonder if I'd only find guys who'd want to abuse me and humiliate my husband. Fortunately, the local men that i've met face-to-face have all been very respectful of me and aren't into the domination/humiliation side of things. If I don't get the feeling that we're on the same page sexually from our initial conversations, then it doesn't go any further.
Not judging those who are into the willd, extreme stuff, but it's just not for me.