No, its caused huge issues in our family. She's 92yo and is somewhat in denial about it. She says to me, 'why are my children doing this to me?', 'why are they making up these lies about me?' etc. So its either a bit of denial or a bit of genuine dementia. My mom and all but one aunty have stopped communicating with her, which is also very sad being it towards the end of her life. Most are hurt because it was done behind my grandfathers back, and everyone had great respect for him.
Obvously, as a cuck, how can I pass judgement on either of them, he may have well known the whole time. He was always very submissive to her, and nothing was too much trouble to make her happy... plus my grandmother was quite sassy in her youth, love lots of jewellery, leopard print dresses, very high heels and never worked a day in her life... think the sassy woman in Golden Girls.
So, I wouldn't be surprised if it was possibly with his knowledge... who'll know, he died 20 years ago. But I'm sure some of the dynamic they had left an imprint on me growing up and my desire to find a woman to submit to and worship.
The grandchildren who are all around my age in their late 40's early 50's are much more forgiving and just tick it off as thats what happened during the war... easy to do or say, when none of us were there or lived through it.
there some relatives who knew or know what happened.
if grandpa was at war & grandma had three ******* while he was gone, there is no mystery there. her siblings & possibly some of their ******* know. some may still be around.
i agree, it;s disappointing that two of her daughters are ignoring her, at that stage of life.
pete