Girl initiating the cuckold lifestyle. Are we an exception?

[YCoupleRo]

Hello.
We saw a lot of messages on the forum from guys having a hard time to convince their wife/gf to try BBC or to cuckold them.
Actually in our case it was the other way around.
We are a very discreet and educated couple where the gf is a size queen and has a huge sex drive.
In our case gf was the initiator, started by telling the bf about her dreams involving BBC, gangbang etc. Then we bought black dildo, started watching porn together while fucking, especially Gabgbang and cuckold porn.
So slowly the bf also became very aroused with the idea and now we cannot go back vanila.
Are we an exception or women initiating the thing is not so uncommon?

 

[Mandy and Brian]

No many years ago my wife got us into the LS by fucking a black bar owner in Barbados. I had little choice but wouldn’t have it any other way now.

 

[HotwifeHubby]

Hello.
We saw a lot of messages on the forum from guys having a hard time to convince their wife/gf to try BBC or to cuckold them.
Actually in our case it was the other way around.
We are a very discreet and educated couple where the gf is a size queen and has a huge sex drive.
In our case gf was the initiator, started by telling the bf about her dreams involving BBC, gangbang etc. Then we bought black dildo, started watching porn together while fucking, especially Gabgbang and cuckold porn.
So slowly the bf also became very aroused with the idea and now we cannot go back vanila.
Are we an exception or women initiating the thing is not so uncommon?

It’s the exception

 

[hungteacher]

Hello.
We saw a lot of messages on the forum from guys having a hard time to convince their wife/gf to try BBC or to cuckold them.
Actually in our case it was the other way around.
We are a very discreet and educated couple where the gf is a size queen and has a huge sex drive.
In our case gf was the initiator, started by telling the bf about her dreams involving BBC, gangbang etc. Then we bought black dildo, started watching porn together while fucking, especially Gabgbang and cuckold porn.
So slowly the bf also became very aroused with the idea and now we cannot go back vanila.
Are we an exception or women initiating the thing is not so uncommon?

Not uncommon.

It depends on how strong your relationship is, how much trust you guys have with each other and how good communications lines are established. It sounds like you guys have a strong relationship - so thats the part thats uncommon. Most couples in this lifestyle are working through some relationship challenges.

 

[SanteFeRR]

Not an exception at all. We've met many couples over the years where the wife instigated it.

 

[YCoupleRo]

Not uncommon.

It depends on how strong your relationship is, how much trust you guys have with each other and how good communications lines are established. It sounds like you guys have a strong relationship - so thats the part thats uncommon. Most couples in this lifestyle are working through some relationship challenges.

Thank you. To be honest we are very lucky to be together because we have a lot in common, great communication, common hobbies and a lot trust, love and support.

 

[hungteacher]

Thank you. To be honest we are very lucky to be together because we have a lot in common, great communication, common hobbies and a lot trust, love and support.

yw, and that is so great to hear

I have been training cuckold couples for a number of years. And the first round of screening for me is how strong the relationship is or not. If the relationship isnt strong enough, I have to respectfully tell the couple I won't be able to train them. And I explain my concerns and if they want some tips, I offer them.

This isnt an easy lifestyle to do in real life, there are a lot of twists and turns in the beginning, but once you start doing it and know how to handle the hurdles, its a LOT of fun

 

[Jimmydong]

Seems the opinions go both ways which we know isn't possible. It’s one or the other so I will add some expertise. I’m a psychologist and have studied and been fascinated by relationship dynamics all my life. Cuckolding for the last decade. After hearing thousands of stories it is absolutely uncommon for this to be initiated by the wife. It’s very obvious why. A woman risks a lot of built up security throwing this type of suggestion out there unless her husband has given her enough of his inner thoughts for her to be confident in his response. Now do the majority of women fantasize about being with another man? Sure about 100% of them but the vast majority will act on this with simple cheating. Probably to a 95-99% degree. For every woman that confronts her husband about wanting sex outside the marriage at least a thousand do it behind the husband back without saying a word. As far as talking about trying a cuckold relationship I would say it’s at the very least 19 out of 20 situations it’s instigated by the husband and that’s being very conservative. Probably 49 of 50 but I’m trying to put actual numbers to something that you really can’t put numbers to in order to give people an idea of the prevalence. A husband takes a risk asking his wife for this type of relationship but it’s nowhere near the risk a wife takes.

 

[smallcock89]

My ex girlfriend introduced cuckolding to me but I am the one that brought it up in my marriage.

 

[QoSandCuck]

The cuckolding evolved together. The BBC was my idea - my first boyfriend in high school was mixed race.

 

[Bootneck71]

Hello.
We saw a lot of messages on the forum from guys having a hard time to convince their wife/gf to try BBC or to cuckold them.
Actually in our case it was the other way around.
We are a very discreet and educated couple where the gf is a size queen and has a huge sex drive.
In our case gf was the initiator, started by telling the bf about her dreams involving BBC, gangbang etc. Then we bought black dildo, started watching porn together while fucking, especially Gabgbang and cuckold porn.
So slowly the bf also became very aroused with the idea and now we cannot go back vanila.
Are we an exception or women initiating the thing is not so uncommon?

Wife here been in LS decade so many whiye women wnat this LS. For many reeasjs. I thjng JJ yiu shoukd ho with the flow. My fussing is she is gojng to do it anyway with it without. So why not do try the hotwife lifestyle. She can go meet a a black bull at hotel and come home after and u can both enjoy what she tells i

 

[Cougar60]

Hello.
We saw a lot of messages on the forum from guys having a hard time to convince their wife/gf to try BBC or to cuckold them.
Actually in our case it was the other way around.
We are a very discreet and educated couple where the gf is a size queen and has a huge sex drive.
In our case gf was the initiator, started by telling the bf about her dreams involving BBC, gangbang etc. Then we bought black dildo, started watching porn together while fucking, especially Gabgbang and cuckold porn.
So slowly the bf also became very aroused with the idea and now we cannot go back vanila.
Are we an exception or women initiating the thing is not so uncommon?

In our case it was me that moved things to BBC.

 

[luvs2watchhishotwife]

If more would, there would actually be a higher number of happier, longer lasting marriages/relationships.

 

[WillandSusn]

Seems the opinions go both ways which we know isn't possible. It’s one or the other so I will add some expertise. I’m a psychologist and have studied and been fascinated by relationship dynamics all my life. Cuckolding for the last decade. After hearing thousands of stories it is absolutely uncommon for this to be initiated by the wife. It’s very obvious why. A woman risks a lot of built up security throwing this type of suggestion out there unless her husband has given her enough of his inner thoughts for her to be confident in his response. Now do the majority of women fantasize about being with another man? Sure about 100% of them but the vast majority will act on this with simple cheating. Probably to a 95-99% degree. For every woman that confronts her husband about wanting sex outside the marriage at least a thousand do it behind the husband back without saying a word. As far as talking about trying a cuckold relationship I would say it’s at the very least 19 out of 20 situations it’s instigated by the husband and that’s being very conservative. Probably 49 of 50 but I’m trying to put actual numbers to something that you really can’t put numbers to in order to give people an idea of the prevalence. A husband takes a risk asking his wife for this type of relationship but it’s nowhere near the risk a wife takes.

Agree. Big risk for most wives but more doing this anyway. Takes some skill to bring husband along . Curious that more women are wiling when husband suggests. Perhaps more women are not as satisifed or just need more sex .

 

[IstrokeC100]

Women are generally cleverer! I used to think that it was me who initiated cuckoldry in our marriage. I’d always had the fantasy and had wanked over it from before we were even married , but never thought she would agree. Then one night I was stunned when after I’d mentioned a mixed sauna club she said “ shall we go?”. I was so excited and took great care to be very supportive of her, fearing she would back out. Anyway we went, and eventually got into a private room with a nice young man who gave her the best fucking of her life up to then!

That was the beginning, and within a couple of years she crossed the second ‘ rubicon’ and enjoyed her first bbc. It was years later when we were a very established cuckold couple that she told me she had fully intended cuckolding me for at least a couple of years before I inadvertently gave her that opportunity when I mentioned the club! She insisted she did love me dearly but had become increasingly sexually frustrated owing to my relatively small penis and poor performance. She had only refrained from taking lovers out of concern for the marriage and the difficulty in a small town of keeping an affair secret. She said she could hardly believe her luck when I gave her the opportunity to get what she needed sexually without any risk to what she valued equally ( or almost equally!) - a stable marriage within which to raise our family.

 

[beenblackened]

I was also the one to start it off with my husband

 

[Doctor Black]

No many years ago my wife got us into the LS by fucking a black bar owner in Barbados. I had little choice but wouldn’t have it any other way now.

I think it's always best when the wife initiates it and husband has absolutely NO CHOICE

 

[10inchbajandic]

No many years ago my wife got us into the LS by fucking a black bar owner in Barbados. I had little choice but wouldn’t have it any other way now.

Any plans to come back anytime soon?

 

[NJamazoncuck]

No many years ago my wife got us into the LS by fucking a black bar owner in Barbados. I had little choice but wouldn’t have it any other way now.

Just prior to our wedding day, my soon to be bride insisted that our honeymoon be on the island of Barbados. She had been Black only since Middle School and had learned from some of her girlfriends that the Black men of Barbados loved to fuck newly married white wives and impregnate them. During our seven-day honeymoon, five to eight Bajan studs happily consummated my marriage by repeatedly fucking and inseminating my bride. They officially made me a cuckold and a month after the honeymoon, we learned that one of them had impregnated my bride with his Bajan baby.

The first of the two attached Polaroid photos was taken two days before our wedding day. Please note her flat belly and her then bra size of 32C. The second photo was taken four months after our honeymoon. Her previously flat belly now sports a baby-bump and her breasts and nipples had increased in size. Five months later, she gave birth to the interracial "bundle of joy" that a Bajan alpha male had given her as a permanent reminder of all the orgasms that she had experienced during our honeymoon in Barbados. When she gave birth, her bra size was 37D.

 

[MaineSailor207]

Women are generally cleverer! I used to think that it was me who initiated cuckoldry in our marriage. I’d always had the fantasy and had wanked over it from before we were even married , but never thought she would agree. Then one night I was stunned when after I’d mentioned a mixed sauna club she said “ shall we go?”. I was so excited and took great care to be very supportive of her, fearing she would back out. Anyway we went, and eventually got into a private room with a nice young man who gave her the best fucking of her life up to then!

That was the beginning, and within a couple of years she crossed the second ‘ rubicon’ and enjoyed her first bbc. It was years later when we were a very established cuckold couple that she told me she had fully intended cuckolding me for at least a couple of years before I inadvertently gave her that opportunity when I mentioned the club! She insisted she did love me dearly but had become increasingly sexually frustrated owing to my relatively small penis and poor performance. She had only refrained from taking lovers out of concern for the marriage and the difficulty in a small town of keeping an affair secret. She said she could hardly believe her luck when I gave her the opportunity to get what she needed sexually without any risk to what she valued equally ( or almost equally!) - a stable marriage within which to raise our family.

Wonderful that you two communicated and found out early that you were both interested in the Hotwife/cuckold lifestyle.

My future wife and I had a similar conversation on our third date. She wanted her complete sexual freedom before agreeing to move into my home. I agreed and actually encouraged her to enjoy herself.