Finding a bull has turned into finding a unicorn

[hansthebeast]

This is our dilemma exactly. We get the same problem when it comes to planning frequent encounters, when seeking our long-term addition to our relationship. It is so frustrating, and definitely makes you want to throw in the towel. However I believe unicorns exist. So good luck

Its probably very hard to find a bull, cause almost all the black men shown in porn are just fucking models, they are the exeption. Its like you constantly show the most beautiful and well endowed white men and call them "the whites". Normal white guys are not like that, normal black men are not like that. Haha.

 

[Chocolatej89]

It’s not a unicorn situation. Just takes patience. Guys like me are out there.

 

[LatinQoSCpl]

It’s not a unicorn situation. Just takes patience. Guys like me are out there.

Totally right. Patience and communication is key for everyone around.

We started to use dating apps. Being very upfront and explaining everyone we are looking for.

 

[chiblkstud]

I find it very interesting that certain folks(couples and guys) seem to have no issue meeting others...in fact many here seem to meet new folks all the time. While others seem to always struggle.

 

[Kull711]

It's become a huge pain in the ass to find "the one". We've had our fair share of fakes, flakes, snakes, and scares, and quite frankly we're super disenchanted with the idea of a regular bull becoming a reality. We had one and lost him -- moved away and then stopped showing up, or the times we did hook up it became a 5-10 minute thing.

The wife isn't super picky, and she's always down. We never had a period of having to "train" or coerce her into being interested in the lifestyle, so our relationship has been a dream come true. We are 100% on the same wave length. We're both attractive (not that my looks necessarily matter), super laid back and approachable, etc. I guess what I'm getting at is at what point do you decide to throw in the towel?

We don't live in a remote area or anything, so I'm confused why this isn't happening. Any one else had/have this problem?

Some background: Husband has been in the lifestyle for about 9 years, and wife has been in it for about 4 (since we've been together). I've taken a break for one reason or another a few times, but its at the point now where constantly pursuing another partner makes us not want to do it at all.

It's unfortunate that both of you are having a hard time finding a compatible bull in this lifestyle & from viewing your wife's pictures & this post you two seem like really cool people & hopefully luck smiles on you two and a compatible bull will enter your lives in a way that enriches both you.

 

[Kull711]

This is our dilemma exactly. We get the same problem when it comes to planning frequent encounters, when seeking our long-term addition to our relationship. It is so frustrating, and definitely makes you want to throw in the towel. However I believe unicorns exist. So good luck

i admire your spirit and may you find what your bull that you're seeking

 

[24Hotwife4BBC]

i admire your spirit and may you find what your bull that you're seeking

Thank you very much

 

[Kull711]

Thank you very much

my pleasure & hopefully i can get to meet beautiful women like yourself in person soon

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

Totally right. Patience and communication is key for everyone around.

We started to use dating apps. Being very upfront and explaining everyone we are looking for.

Yep. If you don't blatantly say who and what you are looking for, how do you think you will find a good match?

 

[LatinQoSCpl]

Yep. If you don't blatantly say who and what you are looking for, how do you think you will find a good match?

Very true and it’s worked out great for us. Introducing people to the site and the lifestyle

 

[C The Creator]

I realize that. Maybe we're trying to hard, idk.

Not at all. But all the real people are to far away it seems. 90% are game players, cucks hiding behind wives photos, etc.

I would think it would easy in Florida but dam.

It all varies on this site and the area though definitely.

 

[hallzwallz]

It can be hard and frustrating. We have been looking for awhile here in Iowa. Had a couple possible guys. Messages gallore, then nothing.

 

[Cuckcouple951]

She’s had 8 since November. Two at once in Vegas. Just finding the right one is challenging

 

[The Arranger]

It's become a huge pain in the ass to find "the one". We've had our fair share of fakes, flakes, snakes, and scares, and quite frankly we're super disenchanted with the idea of a regular bull becoming a reality. We had one and lost him -- moved away and then stopped showing up, or the times we did hook up it became a 5-10 minute thing.

The wife isn't super picky, and she's always down. We never had a period of having to "train" or coerce her into being interested in the lifestyle, so our relationship has been a dream come true. We are 100% on the same wave length. We're both attractive (not that my looks necessarily matter), super laid back and approachable, etc. I guess what I'm getting at is at what point do you decide to throw in the towel?

We don't live in a remote area or anything, so I'm confused why this isn't happening. Any one else had/have this problem?

Some background: Husband has been in the lifestyle for about 9 years, and wife has been in it for about 4 (since we've been together). I've taken a break for one reason or another a few times, but its at the point now where constantly pursuing another partner makes us not want to do it at all.

I know what you are going through. Went through it thirty plus years ago. Still go through it today. You see I enjoy restoring old cars and motor cycles. Just try and find parts.

 

[Subby]

It's become a huge pain in the ass to find "the one". We've had our fair share of fakes, flakes, snakes, and scares, and quite frankly we're super disenchanted with the idea of a regular bull becoming a reality. We had one and lost him -- moved away and then stopped showing up, or the times we did hook up it became a 5-10 minute thing.

The wife isn't super picky, and she's always down. We never had a period of having to "train" or coerce her into being interested in the lifestyle, so our relationship has been a dream come true. We are 100% on the same wave length. We're both attractive (not that my looks necessarily matter), super laid back and approachable, etc. I guess what I'm getting at is at what point do you decide to throw in the towel?

We don't live in a remote area or anything, so I'm confused why this isn't happening. Any one else had/have this problem?

Some background: Husband has been in the lifestyle for about 9 years, and wife has been in it for about 4 (since we've been together). I've taken a break for one reason or another a few times, but its at the point now where constantly pursuing another partner makes us not want to do it at all.

This is us. My Mrs has given up as she can't be arsed with the fakes anymore. Tedious.

 

[beachcouple2]

finding someone is very difficult

 

[Kingstallion]

Thank you very much

Read your about section. Know we would be very compatible.

 

[StevieGirl]

It's all about attraction. You can't expect black men to automatically be overjoyed at the fact that your wife wants the lifestyle... and come running just because. Sexy black men have a lot of options these days... and for whatever reason, you all aren't on the hit list. Maybe let your wife run without you for a while, and see what happens.

 

[doublek]

Yeah, proximity is a pretty big deal. That's part of the problem. Everyone from Orlando stops talking to us once we start talking logistics. And it doesn't matter how clear and concise we are about expectations and travelling, we get hit up anyway and its always the same - "Thats a lot of driving". Yeah. Thats why we said "Daytona" lol.

We don't want just a random hook up every once in awhile. Short of her jumping on regular dating apps, staying active on SDC and here is all we can come up with.

I'm actually from Daytona. I'm in grad school near the beach. And I understand the strife of your dilemma. I would enjoy chatting and mutual screening if youre interested

 

[blackandkinky]

It's become a huge pain in the ass to find "the one". We've had our fair share of fakes, flakes, snakes, and scares, and quite frankly we're super disenchanted with the idea of a regular bull becoming a reality. We had one and lost him -- moved away and then stopped showing up, or the times we did hook up it became a 5-10 minute thing.

The wife isn't super picky, and she's always down. We never had a period of having to "train" or coerce her into being interested in the lifestyle, so our relationship has been a dream come true. We are 100% on the same wave length. We're both attractive (not that my looks necessarily matter), super laid back and approachable, etc. I guess what I'm getting at is at what point do you decide to throw in the towel?

We don't live in a remote area or anything, so I'm confused why this isn't happening. Any one else had/have this problem?

Some background: Husband has been in the lifestyle for about 9 years, and wife has been in it for about 4 (since we've been together). I've taken a break for one reason or another a few times, but its at the point now where constantly pursuing another partner makes us not want to do it at all.

that's a shame to hear. From personal experience it's always been the distance from interested parties that have made me less active. You'd think there'd be a ton of action in L.A. right? Crazy to hear it's the same for a hot couple in Florida as well.