The first time it happened to me, I was kinda pissed off because they were sneaking around behind my back and I genuinely liked the setup we had, plus I had set up my black buddy with several white women and I felt betrayed. The second time, I felt like something was going on but they were still meeting at my house once a week and I was getting what I wanted. The 3rd time, he fell in love with her and asked her to stop seeing me. I was tired of her so it was perfect. I hate to sound pessimistic but it probably happens way more than people think.