Guys need to warm up her mind and then pay attention to her erogenous zones. Lips, earlobes, feet, behind the knees, small of her back, lightly massage where her ovaries are, then her nipples, then her labia, finally her clitoris. Use a good quality lubricant. Pay attention to that man in the boat until he is erect and comes out to play. Only then use a vibrator or oral to bring her to an orgasm. Then give her the vibrator to her so she can control her stimulation and enter her as she has multiple orgasms. She may at that point be contracting so hard she will squeeze the life out of you.
Don’t let the old adage be true. “Why will a man search an hour for a golf ball but can never find a clitoris?”
. To be honest I've taught some women more about their own bodies than they knew themselves. My favorite example is being the first to make them squirt and believe it or not cum for the first time. To speak more directly to your question I've known where a woman's clitoris was since middle school
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knows his way around wood so a Master Cocksmith 
knows his way around some married pussy!
