I suppose you prefer a stranger to just come knock you in the head without any discussion beforehand.
Luck with that
Sarcasm aside, unless one is a sociopath and just snatches couples off the streets, yes, when we first get acquainted we have discussions about what is possible.
The World I live in, people are held accountable for doing things against another's will.
I'm so done with psychiatrically unbalanced people on adult sites
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Fantasy
Role-play
Reality
Consent
Websters still has definitions for these if I'm not incorrect.