Hi, we are a married couple who have been talking about a fantasy we both share of which my wife either has sex with another man and I watch or join making it a 3some. I really want to see her with a BBC, a whole other fantasy of mine!!! We are not sure if this will transpire or not, as the last hurdle is one of morality. We both have Christian beliefs, however I'm in no way as religious as she is nor her fathers side of the family. My wife is reluctant as she just feels that it is immoral for her to have sex with anyone other than me as she is my wife, and feels it is immoral for me to desire sharing her with another man. I just don't know how to say what I feel which is we are both adults, married, and therefore we should be able to discuss and do whatever we both agree to, not matter what others may think. Our personal married life is only our business, not others, unless we choose to invite them into it. I guess what we are looking for is advice or insight on what others have done, if they had to overcome a morality issue on either partners part. My wife is in no way a prude, however she has only been sexual with 4 men, 2 high school boyfriends, her first husband, and now me. We want to thank you in advance for any input or advice.
EDIT: Hello, this is Shawn, my husband and I chose to post here looking for help with a moral dilemma I have as we discuss this fantasy that I shared with my husband many many years ago and it has been a serious topic of discussion for us for almost 3 years now. Please do not assume that my husband is in any way pressuring me to do this. We both choose to discuss this, as well as many other fantasies or desires we have, and make decisions as to take them from fantasy/desire to reality or not. We both share this fantasy, my husband being more so wanting to watch me than join me and another man. It has been discussed and we both have agreed that if we do choose to proceed, we are going to explore my husband watching me with another man, and will do so until we decide it is time to take it to the next level.
As we were reading my edit prior to saving it, I asked my husband if I was just overthinking the morality of this situation. We have discussed and shared so many fantasies and desires leading up to this point some we have chosen to leave as fantasies/desires, some we have chosen to pursue, all in reality to some other person would absolutely be immoral. Each individual person does have their own morals and beliefs and therefor what makes ones morals and beliefs right and anothers wrong? Hmmmmm..... Thanks again to all of the people who have replied and offered their thoughts, beliefs, experiences, etc.
Thank you,
Hopeful yet unsure!