Trying to get rid of this "fetish"

#1
I LOVE IR porn. The image of a beautiful white woman enjoying a nice big black cock is such a turn on for me.

However, my wife just isn't in to it. We've been together about a decade now but she just doesn't want to fuck another guy. I sometimes (or rather, most times) bring it up during or after sex but it turns her off and she doesn't like me talking about it.

How can I get rid of this fetish? I ask only because I love her and I don't want to hurt her. I honestly can't help bringing it up because I really want to see her blacked!!

The horny side of my brain wants someone to reply and tell me it's inevitable and that she'll eventually succumb and start to crave black cock but I know I'm just thinking with my dick.
 

MarriedWhite

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#3
I LOVE IR porn. The image of a beautiful white woman enjoying a nice big black cock is such a turn on for me.

However, my wife just isn't in to it. We've been together about a decade now but she just doesn't want to fuck another guy. I sometimes (or rather, most times) bring it up during or after sex but it turns her off and she doesn't like me talking about it.

How can I get rid of this fetish? I ask only because I love her and I don't want to hurt her. I honestly can't help bringing it up because I really want to see her blacked!!

The horny side of my brain wants someone to reply and tell me it's inevitable and that she'll eventually succumb and start to crave black cock but I know I'm just thinking with my dick.
Years ago my wife was was just deadset AGAINST having sex with a black man. She just flatly refused and even appeared to be upset each time I mentioned it. UNTIL, that is, she was finally convinced that I really, really REALLY did want her to try it! Once that question was settled all we had to do was find the right black man. Perhaps it will be this way with you and your wife. Good luck!!
 

jburnssss

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#5
Years ago my wife was was just deadset AGAINST having sex with a black man. She just flatly refused and even appeared to be upset each time I mentioned it. UNTIL, that is, she was finally convinced that I really, really REALLY did want her to try it! Once that question was settled all we had to do was find the right black man. Perhaps it will be this way with you and your wife. Good luck!!
you should add some media, she looks sexy in that photo
 

Ras Clot

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#8
I LOVE IR porn. The image of a beautiful white woman enjoying a nice big black cock is such a turn on for me.

However, my wife just isn't in to it. We've been together about a decade now but she just doesn't want to fuck another guy. I sometimes (or rather, most times) bring it up during or after sex but it turns her off and she doesn't like me talking about it.

How can I get rid of this fetish? I ask only because I love her and I don't want to hurt her. I honestly can't help bringing it up because I really want to see her blacked!!

The horny side of my brain wants someone to reply and tell me it's inevitable and that she'll eventually succumb and start to crave black cock but I know I'm just thinking with my dick.
Lol. Not sure it ever really goes away. But u can suppress it and hope for the best
 
#9
Don't suppress it, work a little harder.
Does she like to dance?
If she does look for interracial pickup sites in your area.
Get her to have a few drinks and then tell her you want to go out to dance and take her there.
If she looks half way decent every black guy there will try to dance with her and seduce her.
They will even by her more drinks to loosen her up.
It worked for me the first time we went out dancing, A black guy had his hands on her pussy and she almost went out to his car with him.
 
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#10
I know this will be an unpopular opinion but.... if she's not into it, there's nothing you can do or say to get her into it.
not that she will definitely not ever change her mind, but it's for her to change.
the question is what does she want?
I LOVE IR porn. The image of a beautiful white woman enjoying a nice big black cock is such a turn on for me.

However, my wife just isn't in to it. We've been together about a decade now but she just doesn't want to fuck another guy. I sometimes (or rather, most times) bring it up during or after sex but it turns her off and she doesn't like me talking about it.

How can I get rid of this fetish? I ask only because I love her and I don't want to hurt her. I honestly can't help bringing it up because I really want to see her blacked!!

The horny side of my brain wants someone to reply and tell me it's inevitable and that she'll eventually succumb and start to crave black cock but I know I'm just thinking with my dick.
 
#11
Don't suppress it, work a little harder.
Does she like to dance?
If she does look for interracial pickup sites in your area.
Get her to have a few drinks and then tell her you want to go out to dance and take her there.
If she looks half way decent every black guy there will try to dance with her and seduce her.
They will even by her more drinks to loosen her up.
It worked for me the first time we went out dancing, A black guy had his hands on her pussy and she almost went out to his car with him.

i know exactly what you mean, we have done this a few times and they are always all over her!
 
#12
It's a difficult situation when you have quite a different sexual goal or fetish from your wife. You seem to really love and care for your wife and value your relationship so the onus may be on you to try and minimise the influence and impact iyour nterracial fetish has upon you. This may not be easy but giving it a try may reap rewards as I believe many people have forgone sexual relationships or fetishes because they value their current relationship and partner more.
If you find it too difficult it may be worth consulting a psychologist, you may not have to discuss the specifics of your interracial fetish but you may be able to use certain psychological or behavioural techniques to help you. Even discussing this and querying how to erase your fetish is a positive step along the way. I wish you well whatever you decide to do.
 
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#13
I LOVE IR porn. The image of a beautiful white woman enjoying a nice big black cock is such a turn on for me.

However, my wife just isn't in to it. We've been together about a decade now but she just doesn't want to fuck another guy. I sometimes (or rather, most times) bring it up during or after sex but it turns her off and she doesn't like me talking about it.

How can I get rid of this fetish? I ask only because I love her and I don't want to hurt her. I honestly can't help bringing it up because I really want to see her blacked!!

The horny side of my brain wants someone to reply and tell me it's inevitable and that she'll eventually succumb and start to crave black cock but I know I'm just thinking with my dick.
Hello there. I don't think you can just "erase" this fetish and suppressing it is no good for you either. That just fosters frustration and most women are very good at discerning when something is amiss. I think you need to change your tactics a bit. First, don't constantly bring up the subject of IR or huge black dicks all the time. Your wife may start to wonder if you're into other men. Second, focus on what turns her on. She needs to be in a relaxed state free from any pressure to be something she's not. Lastly, you must stay the course but in subtle ways. You need to test the waters. Does she find black men unappealing? Is she fond of certain black actors, comedians, or celebs? You have to create a positive association between black guys and her. Can she see herself being friends with someone of color? I don't think your wife is prejudice but may be intimidated by black men hence being turned off by the notion of them even having sex with her. You have to do some research and see what she reacts to. It will take some work but you have to find out if she will ever be receptive to your fetish. Question for you my friend: other than your fetish, would you consider your wife to be open minded in the bedroom?
 
#14
I LOVE IR porn. The image of a beautiful white woman enjoying a nice big black cock is such a turn on for me.

However, my wife just isn't in to it. We've been together about a decade now but she just doesn't want to fuck another guy. I sometimes (or rather, most times) bring it up during or after sex but it turns her off and she doesn't like me talking about it.

How can I get rid of this fetish? I ask only because I love her and I don't want to hurt her. I honestly can't help bringing it up because I really want to see her blacked!!

The horny side of my brain wants someone to reply and tell me it's inevitable and that she'll eventually succumb and start to crave black cock but I know I'm just thinking with my dick.
I have the same exact issue I've been trying for years
 
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