Hey everyone.
Thank you for allowing me to post here. I am in a difficult situation and need advice from group members.
Back in January, I posted an ad on double list looking for a BBC bull for my beautiful wife. Yes, I am a cuck and my wife is the more aggressive partner of the two. We had discussed finding her someone exclusive and at first, she was hesitant but eventually came around with some established ground rules.
We met this guy in his mid 20's. A really good-looking dude, BBC who seemed to have have everything going for him. Looks, body, job, education. I was a bit intimidated when I met him but this was ultimately my wife's choice. She was interested right away. We ended up meeting in a public forum, and it went very well. I left the coffee shop for about an hour to give them time to discuss privately. When I returned, both were gone. I was calling my wife over and over and my calls were going to VM.
I went home and waited for her. She arrived a few hours later and told me she left with him and went back to his place. They had sex. I was upset because this went against the agreement we set, but ultimately let it go because I do love her and want her to be happy. A month later, before the pandemic hit the US, I had gone away for a business trip for two weeks. My wife and I always made it a point to talk everyday, usually in the AM when I am away and we did. Everything seemed normal and when I returned home, everything seemed normal, except one thing. She wouldn't let me touch her sexually. She would make excuses, wasn't feeling well, on her period, etc etc. So, the pandemic hits and we are both working from home. I was trying to make the best of a bad situation, doing special things for her, cooking for her, doing projects around the house she wanted done. There was this distance though. And no sex. No sex since February, only occasional foreplay.
To make a very long story short, I soon started becoming suspicious something more was going on with her. A friend suggested I call my cell phone company and request they send me a copies of all the outgoing/incoming calls on my wife's phone going back to January. I noticed a pattern of one number on her bill, going back to January, and quite a few incoming/outgoing from the same number, especially the two weeks I was away for business. I called the number from my friends phone and it was him. The black dude she hooked up with in January.
I didn't say anything to her, instead choosing to hire a private detective. Back in May, I went up to Lake Havasu to see my parents to see what she'd do while I was away. Yep, you guessed it. She hooked up with him everyday and I have photos from the PI showing her arriving at his place, and staying overnight on several occasions.
Needless to say, I was heartbroken and still am and I also blame myself. I had no choice but to confront her with this, and she turned everything around on me. Also threatened me that if I go public about her affair, she would out me as a cuckhold to my family. Told her I still loved her and I wanted to make the marriage work. She tells me she wants out. She is in love with him and wants to be with him.
I did not agree to a divorce, mostly because I was unwilling to give up on my marriage but also because there are assets, 401k's and investments to consider on both ends. I hired a lawyer. She hired a lawyer and here we are. She wants me to sign over the house, in return for no spousal support or access to my 401k. (I do make most of the money). I am asking her to agree to a 50/50 split, she won't budge. She has since moved out of the house and I am unsure of where she is living. I can only assume they are together. Thankfully, we have no *******.
This past weekend, I get a VM from the dude. He is now getting involved telling me I am standing in the way of them building a future together and he wants this situation resolved as quick as possible before it causes me more problems. I took that as a threat, and I have to admit, this guy intimidates me but I will never let him know that. And why does a divorce or no divorce stand in the way of "their future"? My marriage is over. He won. Still not sure what he means by that and why the rush.
Anyhow, my question is what would you do if you were in this situation? My lawyer is advising me to agree to her terms, but I have to admit, I am angry about doing so. There is over 300,000 in equity in this house and I resent that the money will very likely go towards a future home for the two of them.
Also, cuckhold situations can be fun and fulfilling, but never in my wildest dreams would I think this would be the outcome for me. That my marriage would be ruined as a result. My advice to everyone here who's involved in situations like this is be very careful with situations like this. if it happened to me, it can happen to anyone.
Thank you for allowing me to post here. I am in a difficult situation and need advice from group members.
Back in January, I posted an ad on double list looking for a BBC bull for my beautiful wife. Yes, I am a cuck and my wife is the more aggressive partner of the two. We had discussed finding her someone exclusive and at first, she was hesitant but eventually came around with some established ground rules.
We met this guy in his mid 20's. A really good-looking dude, BBC who seemed to have have everything going for him. Looks, body, job, education. I was a bit intimidated when I met him but this was ultimately my wife's choice. She was interested right away. We ended up meeting in a public forum, and it went very well. I left the coffee shop for about an hour to give them time to discuss privately. When I returned, both were gone. I was calling my wife over and over and my calls were going to VM.
I went home and waited for her. She arrived a few hours later and told me she left with him and went back to his place. They had sex. I was upset because this went against the agreement we set, but ultimately let it go because I do love her and want her to be happy. A month later, before the pandemic hit the US, I had gone away for a business trip for two weeks. My wife and I always made it a point to talk everyday, usually in the AM when I am away and we did. Everything seemed normal and when I returned home, everything seemed normal, except one thing. She wouldn't let me touch her sexually. She would make excuses, wasn't feeling well, on her period, etc etc. So, the pandemic hits and we are both working from home. I was trying to make the best of a bad situation, doing special things for her, cooking for her, doing projects around the house she wanted done. There was this distance though. And no sex. No sex since February, only occasional foreplay.
To make a very long story short, I soon started becoming suspicious something more was going on with her. A friend suggested I call my cell phone company and request they send me a copies of all the outgoing/incoming calls on my wife's phone going back to January. I noticed a pattern of one number on her bill, going back to January, and quite a few incoming/outgoing from the same number, especially the two weeks I was away for business. I called the number from my friends phone and it was him. The black dude she hooked up with in January.
I didn't say anything to her, instead choosing to hire a private detective. Back in May, I went up to Lake Havasu to see my parents to see what she'd do while I was away. Yep, you guessed it. She hooked up with him everyday and I have photos from the PI showing her arriving at his place, and staying overnight on several occasions.
Needless to say, I was heartbroken and still am and I also blame myself. I had no choice but to confront her with this, and she turned everything around on me. Also threatened me that if I go public about her affair, she would out me as a cuckhold to my family. Told her I still loved her and I wanted to make the marriage work. She tells me she wants out. She is in love with him and wants to be with him.
I did not agree to a divorce, mostly because I was unwilling to give up on my marriage but also because there are assets, 401k's and investments to consider on both ends. I hired a lawyer. She hired a lawyer and here we are. She wants me to sign over the house, in return for no spousal support or access to my 401k. (I do make most of the money). I am asking her to agree to a 50/50 split, she won't budge. She has since moved out of the house and I am unsure of where she is living. I can only assume they are together. Thankfully, we have no *******.
This past weekend, I get a VM from the dude. He is now getting involved telling me I am standing in the way of them building a future together and he wants this situation resolved as quick as possible before it causes me more problems. I took that as a threat, and I have to admit, this guy intimidates me but I will never let him know that. And why does a divorce or no divorce stand in the way of "their future"? My marriage is over. He won. Still not sure what he means by that and why the rush.
Anyhow, my question is what would you do if you were in this situation? My lawyer is advising me to agree to her terms, but I have to admit, I am angry about doing so. There is over 300,000 in equity in this house and I resent that the money will very likely go towards a future home for the two of them.
Also, cuckhold situations can be fun and fulfilling, but never in my wildest dreams would I think this would be the outcome for me. That my marriage would be ruined as a result. My advice to everyone here who's involved in situations like this is be very careful with situations like this. if it happened to me, it can happen to anyone.
