I was a wannabe for a long time, so I sincerely don't mean for this to sound like a mean-spirited or judgmental post. I totally get that some people haven't found what they're looking for yet, and they still have lots of fantasies in the meantime. They probably see lots of porn and only see the same type of scene over and over again, and have thus developed an idea of what it must look like to live this kind of life. But to me it seems like so many single men looking for a female led and/or cuckold relationship REALLY want there to be strict rituals and universal laws to this kind of play. How many threads start with:
"Should all white men have to _______?”
Don't statements like, "Milking should ALWAYS take place at _______ time, and take _______ long, and be done like _______,” take all the fun out of the fantasy? Why does anyone want a woman who follows rules set by horny, single, lonely would-be slaves? Especially if they're saying the woman should be in charge!
My wife has kept me in chastity for over ten years and goes on playdates with black bulls whenever she wants, sometimes with me and sometimes without. Know when she milks my cock? I'll give you a hint. It's the same time she does anything else having to do with our sex life together: whenever she damn well feels like it. No more, no less.
I understand needing discipline and rules as a submissive. My wife has some, and everyone's are different. But to us, chastity would be SO boring if I knew when I'd be getting a release. For my wife, the fun is in the fact that SHE has the control. For me, what makes me feel submissive is knowing I am 100% at her mercy. I don't know when she will unlock me next. When she does, I don't know if she'll have me shower and then put a cage back on immediately, or if she'll have me edge for her first, or if she'll lather up her hands and tease my dick until I'm a whimpering, raw nerve. I don't know if she will have sex with me, or dry hump me, or tickle the tip of my dick with the light touch of a single fingernail for a while before locking me back up and shifting our attention to her pleasure. If she does choose to play with my dick, I don't know how long it will last. If she decides to let me cum, I don't know until the moment arrives whether I'll get a real orgasm or just another ruined one, being left wanting to scream in frustration and desire when she withdraws her touch and my throbbing hard-on just bobs around in the air for a few seconds before leaking a pathetic and unsatisfying dribble on my belly, the shower floor, or wherever we happen to be when she decides this would be a fun way to spend some time with her horny, denied cuck.
Not only does she enjoy having real control over me, rather than just enforcing rules based on scripted scenes she knows I'll learn to predict, I truly believe that most of the time SHE doesn't know the answer to any of those questions ahead of time either. She enjoys spontaneously doing whatever feels good to her, and decides what feels good whenever it occurs to her.
The last point I'll make is that seldom is she going to waste time performing some kind of ritual with me before going on a playdate. In real life, schedules are busy. If I'm going to be able to join her, she might tell me which cage to wear, but that's about it. Otherwise I'm taking the ******* to wherever they're being looked after. Whether I'm joining her or not, she's putting on makeup and sexy clothes as quickly as possible so she has as much playtime with her bull as she can squeeze into the night. She can tease my dick whenever she wants. Why waste time doing it before a date with someone else?
I'm not saying our way is the one right way. If the weird cuckold bylaws and rituals single men talk about in forums work for you, by all means, knock yourselves out. It's just really strange to live this lifestyle 100% of the time and come into a forum supposedly dedicated to it, only to find out we're apparently doing it wrong. I hope it doesn't ruin anyone's fantasy to hear this, but most real people I've met who engage in this style of play don't spend their actual lives acting out porn scripts the exact same way every day. They spend the time they can carve out for play trying new things and pushing their boundaries and being creative with the partners that really get their juices flowing. That's just my experience. YMMV.