Tonight I tried to have sex with a new girl I am seeing, beautiful curvy red head, we get into it but when it's time to put on a condom and have sex it goes soft straight away, literally wasted two condoms because I could not get hard, soon as she fell asleep I went onto this website and seen a picture of a girl sucking a BBC with cum on her face and I mean I got absolutely rock hard as soon as I laid eyes on it, now downstairs now while she sleeps about to masturbate to IR porn..

Does anyone else have this problem? Does this mean their is no doubts about me being a cuck?

The reality is nothing turns me on other then the idea of girls fucking black men or actual interracial porn!
It's normal for white men...let it flow. I'm in Ireland also...let me fuck her in front of you.
 
Tonight I tried to have sex with a new girl I am seeing, beautiful curvy red head, we get into it but when it's time to put on a condom and have sex it goes soft straight away, literally wasted two condoms because I could not get hard, soon as she fell asleep I went onto this website and seen a picture of a girl sucking a BBC with cum on her face and I mean I got absolutely rock hard as soon as I laid eyes on it, now downstairs now while she sleeps about to masturbate to IR porn..

Does anyone else have this problem? Does this mean their is no doubts about me being a cuck?

The reality is nothing turns me on other then the idea of girls fucking black men or actual interracial porn!

Would love to hear what you guys think or any advice?
You need to step away from the porn and let your libido go back to a normal rhythm. You've conditioned yourself that this is one thing that turns you on and now it is affecting your normal sex life. Turn off the computer, turn off the porn for a few weeks and let yourself recondition to the real world. No masturbation, no porn videos no visual stimulation. Let it come back to center. The situation going on is ruining your sex life and she is going to move on soon. As a woman we see that as a problem with us and you are not turned on about what we have to offer. It can be a cancer.
 
Thanks for the input Annie, I don't even watch that much porn, just when I do watch Cuckold/Interracial porn it just hits me straight away how aroused I am getting! I agree it is cancer, I am getting more stressed during sex lately its becoming a common occurrence, honestly in the last say year it has happened with about 4 different girls, and looking back the only girls that it didn't happen with where the slutty ones, when I know the girl im with is just a freak its not a problem, think that's why I like the cuckold stuff so much I just really love promiscuous girls, maybe that just happened because ive watched so much porn, if a girl isn't a mad whore I am not interested!
Girls are not mad whores and all kink monsters. We can be- but your issues is compounding. You mention you are porn influenced- take that out of the equation and remember that porn is not real.
 
You need to step away from the porn and let your libido go back to a normal rhythm. You've conditioned yourself that this is one thing that turns you on and now it is affecting your normal sex life. Turn off the computer, turn off the porn for a few weeks and let yourself recondition to the real world. No masturbation, no porn videos no visual stimulation. Let it come back to center. The situation going on is ruining your sex life and she is going to move on soon. As a woman we see that as a problem with us and you are not turned on about what we have to offer. It can be a cancer.
Great REAL answer!!
 
You need to step away from the porn and let your libido go back to a normal rhythm. You've conditioned yourself that this is one thing that turns you on and now it is affecting your normal sex life. Turn off the computer, turn off the porn for a few weeks and let yourself recondition to the real world. No masturbation, no porn videos no visual stimulation. Let it come back to center. The situation going on is ruining your sex life and she is going to move on soon. As a woman we see that as a problem with us and you are not turned on about what we have to offer. It can be a cancer.
Absolutely so agree with you.
 
You need to step away from the porn and let your libido go back to a normal rhythm. You've conditioned yourself that this is one thing that turns you on and now it is affecting your normal sex life. Turn off the computer, turn off the porn for a few weeks and let yourself recondition to the real world. No masturbation, no porn videos no visual stimulation. Let it come back to center. The situation going on is ruining your sex life and she is going to move on soon. As a woman we see that as a problem with us and you are not turned on about what we have to offer. It can be a cancer.

Good advice.
 
Hi folks, first time poster here. Been a lurker so far . .
What an emotional thread on which to start . .!
Here’s my story:
Around fifteen years ago (my early thirties) I was already a good few years into the relationship which would later form my marriage. Back then sex was good but never in excess. Plus we lived way apart so for the best part I used to wank myself to death with porn. This part was pretty dull until I discovered completely randomly my first snippet of IR amateur cuckold porn. I consider myself a really open laidback and liberal guy who grew up on the cusp of London. Colour is no issue nor was the concept of mixing colour. But when I saw that short clip I came so quickly!!!

Now back then that was it. Shot my load. IR cuckold porn forgotten about and back to misssing my girlfriend and looking forward to making love with her. The thought of us being in such a scenario the would have made me feel ill and nauseous.

This disassociation continued for a couple of years until one day the thought fell into my head that it be us and wang bam. Anyone and everyone on this site will know what I mean about the sensation.

NOW. fast-forward TEN YEARS. During which time I confessed my sinful thinking many times Got rejected many times. We got married and had ******* then entered into a longpost-natal period of no sex. Actually I was having lots. With my own hand. Watching IR porn and fantasising that it be her. She on the other hand was becoming starved. So basically to all you wannabes out there. One way in is to starve the wife into submission!

She succumbed. We found a guy. They hit it off straight away. As a token gesture I let the, be alone the first time. But that’s just how it was thereafter. Probably 8 meets in six weeks. Two hours each time. Me like a puppy listening through the crack under the bedroom door. I truly think that actually she had fallen in love with him. But then I messed up good. Wrongly showed some natural emotion and she got cold feet. Curtain closed. No more.

Now I am totally not attracted to her at all unless she goes for this again. But right now I don’t think that she will.

I did always place a secret camera in the bedroom so I have some kind of souvenir 😩😥
Listen to what you wrote-
You starved your wife into submission to meet your porn fantasy. Yours- not hers. Not yours together- yours. You withheld affection, emotional connection and physical sex with your wife, then you groveled at the door like a dog and finally admit to placing a hidden recording device in the room. Did she know? Did he know? Did you ever tell the truth later? What if her "lover" did not consent to being filmed? Does this sound acceptable to you? Would you welcome this with open arms and gloat about it if it was you instead of her? Everything you've said is based on your own feeling and on deceit. Not the foundations of a strong marriage. It's all about "you". As a couple your partner is an equal and you should give 100% to her not 50 and she to you. I feel sorrow for your future. Good luck. You've created a mess.
 
You have been desensitized to real sex by porn. Now with the internet porn it is instantly available like never before. Even a couple of decades back most porn was on tape, which were expensive to buy or rent or magazines. Now it's instantly available 24/7.

Also consider that now we live in a sexualized society. In the olden days, before my time, women used to cover their bodies a lot more, even on the beach they wore bathing suits down to their ankles, now at the gym or out and about they wear leggings that leave little to the imagination, you can even see their cellulite and all cracks front and back. Men used to get hard-ons just from seeing a bare leg. There's a phrase from the early 20th century "23 skedaddle" used when you wanted someone to scram or get lost. The 23 originated from 23rd street in NYC where a new skyscraper, the Flatiron Building, was built in 1902. Men use to gather on the site to the point they stopped traffic. Turns out the building created updrafts that lifted women skirts as they walked by and men could get a glimpse of their panties. So cops where assigned to the spot to tell men "23 skedaddle" meaning they could not hang out on 23rd street. Now men would yawn at such a thing, they can see women practically naked everywhere. Also, with porn you choose exactly what scene or fetish you like, that may be impossible or difficult to recreate in person.

Finally, even though we live in a sexualized society as far as depictions of the body and sex, it is actually more difficult for younger persons to have actual sex so they turn to porn. Studies show that people under 35 are having less sex than ever in advanced societies because people are even afraid to make contact. A come-on or sexual suggestion can result in claims of sexual harassment, any touching or suggestion no matter how slight can result in losing your job, even if it doesn't take place at work. You can be sued and lose whatever money you have or end up in jail just on an accusation without physical evidence. So yeah, for many, porn is taking the place of real sex. On top of that people have lost the art of seduction and conversation, if you are interacting with your phone all the time, you are not learning to interact or socialize with real people. I see them at the gym, with ear buds on, oblivious to what's going on around them. Everyone displaying their bodies more and more but nothing going on.
 
You have been desensitized to real sex by porn. Now with the internet porn it is instantly available like never before. Even a couple of decades back most porn was on tape, which were expensive to buy or rent or magazines. Now it's instantly available 24/7.

Also consider that now we live in a sexualized society. In the olden days, before my time, women used to cover their bodies a lot more, even on the beach they wore bathing suits down to their ankles, now at the gym or out and about they wear leggings that leave little to the imagination, you can even see their cellulite and all cracks front and back. Men used to get hard-ons just from seeing a bare leg. There's a phrase from the early 20th century "23 skedaddle" used when you wanted someone to scram or get lost. The 23 originated from 23rd street in NYC where a new skyscraper, the Flatiron Building, was built in 1902. Men use to gather on the site to the point they stopped traffic. Turns out the building created updrafts that lifted women skirts as they walked by and men could get a glimpse of their panties. So cops where assigned to the spot to tell men "23 skedaddle" meaning they could not hang out on 23rd street. Now men would yawn at such a thing, they can see women practically naked everywhere. Also, with porn you choose exactly what scene or fetish you like, that may be impossible or difficult to recreate in person.

Finally, even though we live in a sexualized society as far as depictions of the body and sex, it is actually more difficult for younger persons to have actual sex so they turn to porn. Studies show that people under 35 are having less sex than ever in advanced societies because people are even afraid to make contact. A come-on or sexual suggestion can result in claims of sexual harassment, any touching or suggestion no matter how slight can result in losing your job, even if it doesn't take place at work. You can be sued and lose whatever money you have or end up in jail just on an accusation without physical evidence. So yeah, for many, porn is taking the place of real sex. On top of that people have lost the art of seduction and conversation, if you are interacting with your phone all the time, you are not learning to interact or socialize with real people. I see them at the gym, with ear buds on, oblivious to what's going on around them. Everyone displaying their bodies more and more but nothing going on.
I am curious as to your age.
 
Hubby here , this post really caught my attention . For me it’s just the mere thought of my wife being blacked that makes me hard as a rock ! Porn is a great sex enhancer for us but it’s definitely not needed . Now I can’t deny that every time we have sex , the mental picture of her receiving black dick doesn’t enter my mind . I am consumed with the thought constantly but I don’t let it ruin my sexlife with her by reserving hardon’s just for masturbation or porn based sex . Sometimes we’re out and about and a black guy will turn his head at wifey and we both notice it and later we fuck hard to it and talk about how he wanted to fuck her and almost tripped over himself as he was staring at her . We don’t need anything but the fantasy to generate amazing sex . Real life experiences get us going like she will tell me about being flirted with or pickup lines coming her way ! She over heard these black guys talking about her having a heart shaped booty and they said.” That white girl is fine as fuck !” These kinds of things turn me on greater than any porn !!! It has to be in the moment like a house party or out at a club or maybe even going to an interracial event . Just having fun and not depending on this sexual fantasy! That’s the secret I think for white couples in this lifestyle , don’t depend on it or let it ruin your sexlives by only looking at porn . If you need it and can’t sexually function without it then it’s going to be the failure in your relationship . In the end that’s going to create havoc. Just let it be something fun that naturally pops up .
 
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