Curious to hear others stories of getting into this

[EmilySamUK]

For us, it was just a build up from using porn during foreplay, to watching cams before eventually meeting up with one of our regularly watched cam members.

How did others get into the lifestyle and how did you know you both wanted it?

 

[midmocuck]

I think that my answer to this question probably changes every time I think about it and I suspect it will continue to change with time as our involvement in this lifestyle waxes/wanes or just generally evolves.

For us I believe separate paths led to the same destination because at a certain point they began to converge. My path was interest in kinks involving jealousy, (at first) light sexual humiliation, and surrender of an aggressive/dominant persona. Her's seems to have been an attraction to black men she couldn't explore without worrying about backlash from (elderly, parents are good people) family, and just a desire to have a sexual outlet free from judgement. It came together with a common desire to make each other happy, because that's what married people want to do.

As far as physically? It was just a series of small conversations/confessions/realisations and some bravery.

 

[EmilySamUK]

That's great to hear, glad you could both realise your needs in one outlet!

 

[Ezekiel]

For us, even though it turned out she had always had a desire for black men because of one she dated in college, it was not smooth and quick. I got turned on by guys checking her out and Penthouse Letters and other publications perked my interest in sharing Nellie with other men. We had 2 grown sons, were active in our community and church and Nellie could not believe she could do things like this quietly and discreetly. She was always a woman who enjoyed sex but was also conservative in dress and demeanor. We were (and are) deeply in love and she was very concerned about the effect her play would have on our relationship. She could not believe I would be good with her having sex with other men and not want other women or would not hold it against her somehow. As we talked and role played into more active public teasing and contact short of intercourse, she confided her desire for a black lover to fulfill my fantasy. I felt and still do that I had won a lottery of sorts. She agreed to do it one time with conditions--out of town, she got to choose from more than one guy after in person meets, I would be there, the guys would bring recent tests, etc. Long story shortened, we got lucky, she chose well, he was a passionate, affectionate lover and we both LOVED it. The next morning's discussion made us closer, more intimate in many ways and relieved her mind and set her free. That was 11 years ago, more than 100 guys and we are closer more in love and more ALIVE than ever. She enjoys younger men and they give her incentive to keep her body and mind in good shape. While one night stands and pick ups are good ego bumps for her, she likes having a BF in a city 3 hours from us and dating in public, All this has been a tremendous boost to her ego and self confidence. Neither of us are submissive and she enjoys real men and the connection with her guys. They are not Bulls for simply breeding but men who she enjoys spending time with even when not being sexual. I am so happy for her and it makes me so PROUD to see the pleasure she gets from them and the obvious pleasure they get from being with her and enjoying her body. Both of us and lots of guys have had great pleasure from this lifestyle and hope we will continue for more years. What a wonderful life this is and has been for us. Since we are still discreet, finding outlets like this site to let me communicate with other couples has been wonderful! Thanks blacktowhite and to all the contributors.

 

[EmilySamUK]

For us, even though it turned out she had always had a desire for black men because of one she dated in college, it was not smooth and quick. I got turned on by guys checking her out and Penthouse Letters and other publications perked my interest in sharing Nellie with other men. We had 2 grown sons, were active in our community and church and Nellie could not believe she could do things like this quietly and discreetly. She was always a woman who enjoyed sex but was also conservative in dress and demeanor. We were (and are) deeply in love and she was very concerned about the effect her play would have on our relationship. She could not believe I would be good with her having sex with other men and not want other women or would not hold it against her somehow. As we talked and role played into more active public teasing and contact short of intercourse, she confided her desire for a black lover to fulfill my fantasy. I felt and still do that I had won a lottery of sorts. She agreed to do it one time with conditions--out of town, she got to choose from more than one guy after in person meets, I would be there, the guys would bring recent tests, etc. Long story shortened, we got lucky, she chose well, he was a passionate, affectionate lover and we both LOVED it. The next morning's discussion made us closer, more intimate in many ways and relieved her mind and set her free. That was 11 years ago, more than 100 guys and we are closer more in love and more ALIVE than ever. She enjoys younger men and they give her incentive to keep her body and mind in good shape. While one night stands and pick ups are good ego bumps for her, she likes having a BF in a city 3 hours from us and dating in public, All this has been a tremendous boost to her ego and self confidence. Neither of us are submissive and she enjoys real men and the connection with her guys. They are not Bulls for simply breeding but men who she enjoys spending time with even when not being sexual. I am so happy for her and it makes me so PROUD to see the pleasure she gets from them and the obvious pleasure they get from being with her and enjoying her body. Both of us and lots of guys have had great pleasure from this lifestyle and hope we will continue for more years. What a wonderful life this is and has been for us. Since we are still discreet, finding outlets like this site to let me communicate with other couples has been wonderful! Thanks blacktowhite and to all the contributors.

Wow a very different story!