I prefer prolonged edging. I use the Venus for Men device which is very effective and gives me a terrific orgasm. But to slow things down, I have started using an desensitizing cream which really takes the edge off. The tension of the device working to get me off and the cream working to delay me is a fantastic combination. The Venus works just fine with or without an erection. I can go a very long time. I used to be able to cum several times a day, but no more. This is better. I prefer to edge over and over, saving climax for rare occasions.