I've had decent luck meeting women that want a type of open relationship, yes. Living in a city helps too.
8 to 12 years ago I was a young buck dating a polyamorous married woman. I was looking for my own spouse, so I'd put on Okcupid that I was poly and seeking the same. Polyamory was a little less popular back then. So, I didn't get dates often. I did meet one woman that was into polyamory AND also casual hookups. We were well matched and she would shag guys of any race, as long as there was at least a little bit of mutual attraction. I broke up with her after 6 months do to other reasons though. Sometimes I have regretted that.
2 to 5 years ago I decided to use the label "monogamish" on Okcupid. That got me more dates. I didn't always keep the profile going. Once I had a love interest, I'd turn the profile off. Also, I'd leave it off for months at a time while I was discouraged.
I met more women using "monogamish" on Okcupid though. Also, by ~ 2018 they had a main way to label yourself as non-monogamous, up near your height, etc.....
Polyamory and just open relationships had become more popular, and even more so this year.
The problem I've encountered, in 2019 I started dating a woman that was curious and new to poly. She ended up not really wanting to have casual sex, even though she said that at first. She was way too picky, even at a big swinger's convention. She started dating an older friend of mines too. The sex they had didn't impress me. We broke up a year later. I'm still really close with them both.
Last summer at a festival I started dating a poly woman that fucks a lot of people, men and women. She even rubbed one out watching homemade interracial hotwifing porn with me. She still does things very separate though. She won't tell me things unless I ask, and sometimes she'll fuck ugly people for months before getting with another well hung guy again. Basically, that relationship hasn't been working for me regarding sex as a cuckold, because she is so separate and not transparent about her intentions, but also we don't match just to be life partners either.
Lesson learned is, most (but not all) poly women will do things in ways that won't be like fun hotwifing or cuckolding. They either don't hookup with enough guys, or fuck guys that aren't studs, or they keep things way too separate and don't plan ahead with you as a TOGETHER thing.
If a woman is very into hotwifing and cuckolding AND wants to do it in a polyamorous way, that would work. Otherwise, it's nearly a waste of time dating the highly independent separatist poly women.
I still think labeling one's self as monogamish on a dating profile works well these days, but the cuck type guy will have to pay close attention to what her dating style will actually be. Will she be overly picky? Will she get with boring guys? Will her relationship with you be a primary one and close one with you where you are involved in planning and details?
Better to not mention it on a profile?
Unless the guy is a super good writer, and attractive / affluent, he should not mention cuckolding outright on a profile on a non-kink specific dating site.
I've heard of one couple that got together because he put that he was a Stag looking for his Vixen. The woman didn't know what that was, but it brought up the topic of hotwifing in private messages, and she said she'd be willing to try that in the future. They ended up having a good relationship.
Using "monogamish" works, but brings on such a wide variety of types of women. The cuck type guy will have to not build a relationship with his first option because he is desperate. She might do a boring type of polyamory, and cucky will be bored. So, be sure she craves a certain amount of variety.
The best suggestion so far seems:
Put that you're "Kink friendly" on your dating profile. Later in conversation, or direct messages, when/if she asks what that means to you, be ready to talk about your kinks. I think the best thing to mention is MFM threesomes and "watching". Don't use the word cuckolding. Also, don't mention interracial yet unless something is signaling to you that she likes guys of many different races AND she won't judge you for having a fetish about mixed race sex. Some progressive women are against that.
I'd be ready to tell about more basic kinks too. Mix MFM threesomes in with other kinks you like. A car salesman friend of mines that has done good talking about kinks with women gave me that tip.
Not scaring too many women off by not including too much in the dating profile, but screening only for sexually adventurous women seems to be the best route, yes.
About 1 in 6 women, or 16% are interested in threesomes or freedom to have a hookup on their own.
Coupledom and notions of intimacy and family formation with one committed partner are hallmarks of family and relationship science. Recent national surveys in the United States and Canada have found that consensually non-monogamous relationships are common, though prevalence of specific types of...
www.frontiersin.org
If we barely screen for kinky women with words on the dating profile, we should statistically encounter like-minded women soon enough.
