Couple from Baltimore

I think safety might be the most significant thing. Also, I think she's reluctant to see sex as just sex. I'm trying to encourage slow steps -- online chatting, drinks, etc. A long run-up to the sex itself.
She knows about the fantasy. We've discussed it, played with toys, watched porn. That's about it though. That's about it though. Trying to push it to the next level.
She says she doesn't have fantasies. (We've been married for six years, together for I'm inclined to believe her.). But she isn't turned off by the idea, although I think she might be a little bit intimidated.