Ha, great question. My wife and I are sort of new to this, meaning we talk a lot about it and have plans but have not followed through. I brought the topic up of her sleeping with a well hung black man several years ago while on the way to dinner. It was the most nervous I've been in my life.
She is a really laid back woman and actually responded well to it but initially said it sounded very exciting but I had to know it would not happen. Fast forward a couple of days or so and while we were watching interracial porn she confided she was attracted to this big black guy who used to be her coworker at one time. He was security at her casino and escorted her around the building when she was dealing with funds.
She said this happened prior to me ever mentioning my fantasy and that at one point she really considered what it would be like to have sex him. She said he was well built, very tall and exceptionally charming and they flirted a lot. I got curious and looked him up and sure enough he was everything she said. She stated she had seen his package in jeans and said he had this large bulge and knew he had to be hung which made her even more curious.
We are thinking about calling him.
She's laying the groundwork for you (and herself!). Please keep us in the loop