First, and foremost, if you list on your reservation that three adults will be in the room, there's NO issue to be had from the management that the third adult is a black male. Second, I would venture to say that most people meeting someone for the purposes of sexual intercourse, AKA fucking, feel as if more people care and/or are interested in what they are doing than truly do either notice or give a hoot. In other words, what you are doing is probably lost on most people at the hotel. For the third point, how to keep the noise down when your wife is moaning and begging to be fucked hard and deep, get a room at the end of the hallway on the highest floor possible. (Not only are you far from people listening, if the hotel has enough floors, the elevator rides can be lots of fun!) Last, husband has a Hilton Honors account which allows him to pick the room and it also comes with a Virtual Key which allows him to use his cell phone to unlock the door to the suite and can share the "key" with me and my date for the evening. Also, we always get a suite so there are two rooms in the suite, at a minimum, the bedroom and the "visiting/waiting room!" Before things can get too loud, we progress to the bedroom, shut the door and that puts us behind two sound barriers. Enjoy and don't worry too much about discretion...it all goes out the window when they kiss in the parking lot before separating until the next time all of you hook up.