One thing that I often see couples lamenting about is the types of messages that guys send on this site as well as others. Often times that initial message will be "Hello", "what's up", "Let's fuck", "Damm you're hot", etc. In other words, not much to go on or just something rude/crude. I've been in this lifestyle for quite sometime and one thing that helped me tremendously was actually maintaining a couple's profile as well as monitoring my girl's single female profile for years. Fellas, let me tell you, it's a game changer. When you are able to see first hand the sheer volume of messages that couples/ladies receive on a daily basis it will definitely change your perspective. For most guys in this lifestyle, if you go a week without checking your messages, you may come back to a handful of unsolicited messages (meaning messages that were sent to you, not talking about those where people are responding to a message you sent them). Even those "exceptional" guys would return to find maybe a dozen or so messages. Now, let a couple or single woman go a week without checking their inbox. Especially if she is attractive and has provocative pics posted. Their inbox will be overflowing and many of the messages are total time wasters. The problem is that in order to find the messages from guys who are worthwhile, they have to actually open each message. You can see how this could get very tiring really quickly. I say all of this to say that if you are going to send a message, make it stand out. Actually read their profile and look at their posts (if on a site like this one). Try including some of that information in your message to them. Of course I know that there are some of you will will scoff at this message but I also know that there are some of you out there who actually want to increase their chances of success in this lifestyle. If you are on of those people, then this message is directed at you. Peace