Are white women/couples fetishizing black men?

[Seth1805]

I read this a lot about how white women and white couples are fetishizing black men. The articles run in main stream media as well as more militant venues on topics of race and how it diminishes black men. Perhaps there is some truth in this but personally I do not see how objectifying a black man for his sexual prowess is harmful.
I can only speak to how we feel as a couple and why we seek out black men. First off we see value in black men in other ways than sex, however as a married white couple we believe the pinnacle of sexuality rests with a virile black man. In our mind that is an acknowledgement of a status we believe black men have in matters concerning sex and we want to be able to experience and express that acknowledgment.
For some I am sure it is a fetish but for us it runs much deeper than that I think it runs deeper for many other white couples and women. I believe for us white couples who are married whose wife seeks out black men to make love to what further proof do you need that this all runs deeper than a fetish when the wife and husband forgo their fidelity to each other.
I am curious how others view this issue.

 

[TexasPervySage]

Its a fetish for pretty much all of you. Taking black dick doesn't mean you respect black people as a whole, which includes black women(a lot of y'all tend to take subliminal and not so subliminal shots at black women).

If you think spreading your legs for black men is any indicator of being more than a fetish, you are lost.


If you fetishize people and have fun, whatever, but it's a no go when people try to make it more than what it is. Your explaination proves nothing. There is no deeper meaning.

If you look at historical context, it's harmful. A lot of y'all can't separate yourselves from the sex life and think it's supposed to be Mandingofest 24/7.

 

[Seth1805]

Its a fetish for pretty much all of you. Taking black dick doesn't mean you respect black people as a whole, which includes black women(a lot of y'all tend to take subliminal and not so subliminal shots at black women).

If you think spreading your legs for black men is any indicator of being more than a fetish, you are lost.


If you fetishize people and have fun, whatever, but it's a no go when people try to make it more than what it is. Your explaination proves nothing. There is no deeper meaning.

If you look at historical context, it's harmful. A lot of y'all can't separate yourselves from the sex life and think it's supposed to be Mandingofest 24/7.

I appreciate your view point. Nothing is absolute though. My wife worked with this black guy for 5 years before he headed to a different casino and after I mentioned her sleeping with another man she brought up this guy and admitted she "liked" the guy. Her term was she had a crush on him but never took it further than flirting but now that we are at this point in our marriage she has a very keen interest in him. And yes part of what intrigued was the fact he was a black man but that was not all.
My wife would be sleeping with him for a multitude of reasons and yes one of the reasons would be because he is black. Women are complex creatures, I know mine is, and she is not going to bed with him unless she respects him and holds him in high regard. She alluded to that very thing when she brought him up to me by saying he treated her like a lady and that he had this aura about him that made him very attractive to her and the other women as well.
Say what you will but for my wife the only reasons she wants to sleep with a black man is because of the aforementioned reasons in our previous post and she happens to know the guy she wants. And yes some of this could be fetish for us but it's not the entire story of why either of us are involved