Lana, if the world of "humiliation" is the world that turns you on, by all means have at it. Wife and I started out our relationship swinging with other couples and individual friends when in college, and that was over 20 years ago;we're way beyond wanting to humiliate or create adverse feelings. One of our longest relationships, with a UNC college female student lasted almost 4 years. That story I've told in its entirety several times here over the years. We paid her well to baby sit our children and the 'fringe benefits' were awesome, too. But, size has never been an issue with her; in fact, she is small framed and a very large could would make her uncomfortable.
And as far as the *******' DNA ... lol ... if I put a pic of my teenagers up (which I won't) you'd most definitely see they carry our genetics ... certainly not dark skinned as I imagine you might wish. But that was a kind thought ... thank you.
