wives leaving husbands?

Most folks I have met in the Swinger community IMHO had rock solid marriages...My first time experimenting in the scene, I hooked with a couple whose husband liked to watch...The experience was one of the most positive I have ever had. You could tell they loved one another deeply. Being secure and mature in your relationship Imho is a lot more sexy than Skin Color, Size and Etc..
 
I wrote this before, but felt it was a good time to post again. I was not able to have intercourse, so my wife and I agreed to let her have b/f's for sex. It work well for a while, they were 2 white guys, they didn't effect our marriage at all. The marriage changed when she wanted to try a BBC. Between the incredieble sex and his wealth he just flat out stole her. I thought we had a great marriage. Read some of my earlier posts about their relationship and travels. He is very wealthy and the sex is off the chart. When he offered her the ring, she totally commited to him and left he. Her leaving was very painful for me. Be careful what cock you let you wife have, you stand the chance of losing her. Just saying.....................................
 
Any LTR can be complicated. If you are married or involved in a monogamous LTR and you add an additional person or persons to the mix there is no way off knowing what the result will be. There are two routes that a person can go. The first and best is full disclosure. All the cards are always on the table. If you don't have a healthy relationship with your partner you will find out pretty quickly. Extra people make a complex relationship more complex. If the relationship is weak or damaged additional people will destroy it. Anyone that has intimate relations outside their marriage and their spouse is aware has to have the full support of their spouse.

The other option is total non disclosure. Everything is secret. A lot of people try it and they fail. As far as I know none of the women that have shared my bed for quite sometime have involved their husbands. I don't really know because I don't ask. We have a lot of "don't"s and everyone involved including myself have a vested interest in keeping our secrets. If you are involved in a secret affair you need to be able to account for those times you are with your extra curricular partner. You will need to keep up your normal activities sexual and otherwise with your spouse.

I think there is a lot more secret extra marital sex than most people realize. However I think most of it is higher risk short time or one time encounters.

In today's economy most families need two incomes so there are more financial incentives to stay together. I know of one couple that share a house but no longer sleep together, they see who they want when they want. They have children and as far as I know they are kept insulated from what their parents are doing. He told me that they just can't afford to get divorced and that the marriage was dead.

You do have a strong point there, and I won't argue against that. Hence is why I reckon couples wanting to indulge in this lifestyle should come open with how they want it to be for themselves.
 
I wrote this before, but felt it was a good time to post again. I was not able to have intercourse, so my wife and I agreed to let her have b/f's for sex. It work well for a while, they were 2 white guys, they didn't effect our marriage at all. The marriage changed when she wanted to try a BBC. Between the incredieble sex and his wealth he just flat out stole her. I thought we had a great marriage. Read some of my earlier posts about their relationship and travels. He is very wealthy and the sex is off the chart. When he offered her the ring, she totally commited to him and left he. Her leaving was very painful for me. Be careful what cock you let you wife have, you stand the chance of losing her. Just saying.....................................

It could have happened to anyone.
 
Whatever works for anyone. Sometimes such actions could only reveal hidden cracks existing in a marital home that've just been waiting to bubble to the surface. Not saying it's good, just saying it is what it is.
 

I've had hubbies accuse me online of breaking up their marriages . . . except I've never met them before. Turns out they got too addicted to watching interracial porn, their wives found out and that broke them apart.
 
Damn Phil do what I did and get a damn vasectomy. Just don't tell them you got it done man! I got one a year ago and it is easy to have done with no side effects. I laughed at a woman who said that I got her pregnant. She told me that I had to give her money for plan B and that is when I told her I had a vasectomy. She did not buy the plan B and told her friends. This games been improving ever since!

With as much time as she spent sucking my dick I would have assumed she would have seen the incision marks, but she did not. That makes me feel better.

btw...no Low T or any of that other BS
In time the scars fade. But generally a woman isn't doing an inspection when she is going down on you. A vasectomy is one of the best investments I have made. It's a good idea to get checked periodically for the first few years. I have heard of occasions where the vas deferens have healed and fertility is restored. Not a pleasant surprise
 
Whatever works for anyone. Sometimes such actions could only reveal hidden cracks existing in a marital home that've just been waiting to bubble to the surface. Not saying it's good, just saying it is what it is.
That is very true. What is, is. I think there are a lot of people that really don't know what is going on in their marriage. Problems that exist come to surface and a persons stands there wondering where that came from and the problem was there all along.
 
i never left my husband but his ex wife did one nite my husband made a deal with his ******* dealer he said for 300 dollars worth of coke u can fuck my wife u can bring her to a hotel for the nite she gunna be cool with it he said they went to the room and him and his ex hit a rail of coke the black guy slapped her on the ass her eyes got big and she giggled a few mins lata she started getting hott da black guy walked out da bathroom in his boxers walked up to his ex and pulled his dick out and poured some coke on it told her to hit it when she hit it she licked the rest of it off his dick and started giving him head he asked her if she could give him head too she said ok he stood on the side of him there was no competition his dick coulda hide behind da black mans dick

Hot!
 
Even though my first marriage ended after 4 yrs it could of ended the first year because of a black guy and a Hispanic co worker was the start of our troubles
 
In the case of a man who has no insecurity about himself or his relationship with his wife and is doing this as an act of love to give his wife the most pleasure possible, he is not lowering himself at all. If anything he is elevating himself. He isn't giving the other man status above him, but rather making him an extension of himself sort of like having grown a second penis or another pair of hands with which to use to heighten his wife's pleasure.

The other men I have sex with are an extension of my husband, all of them are.
 
My first wife left me for a black man. We were high school sweethearts and had only slept with each other. A couple years into our marriage, she planned a trip with some friends to New Orleans. When she didn't come back on the day she had planned, I couldn't get in touch with her. I called her friends and found out they hadn't gone and knew nothing about the trip. I finally got her on the phone and she said she was staying there for a while with a man she had met online. She came back after a month when she got pregnant and he kicked her out. We did divorce, but I let her live with me for a little while.
 
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