Why men flake

[tenoaks10]

We always spend time breaking the ice and getting to know more about each other through emails and phone conversations. Some people think that messaging "too much" is boring and a waste of their time. If the plan is to meet up in person and in the near future why not use some of the time before the meet to get to know the basics about each other. It is also a good idea to make sure everyone is on the same page and what to expect. We for example, are not into any type of domination/submissive life style. That is a very important factor for some people. The whole demeaning "cuckold" thing is a far cry from what we are about also. It isn't like we give a room number out to some stranger and just walks in the room and he starts in with the wife. Some people are into that but when you take the time to find out what each others likes and dislikes are it just seems to go more smoothly and everyone is more comfortable in the situation. We like to meet at a public place, have drinks or coffee, listen to some music, have some thought provoking discussions. Basically make sure we all "click". If everything goes well we move forward, whether that is meeting at a later time, going to dinner, maybe even a gentlemens club OR going somewhere private which we seem to always know when the time is right. I also can understand why someone would find it odd or uncomfortable doing someone's wife while the guy is in the room. It is not like in the porn movies for us. The movies where the hubby is sitting there looking all depressed while his wife berates him.. that ******* is actually funny. The wife in everyday life is a career woman, active in the community, school functions, let's just say she has a lot of ******* going on. Well discussing things that turn her on it became apparent she is very attracted sexual to black men and she really enjoys well endowed men. She also has a naughty side that I love to see come out. She loves being bad in front of me and I would rather watch her live and in person then any girl in some movie. So we decided to try out this Hot wife lifestyle and explore the wild side of life while we still have time. There has never been a shortage of guys willing to take care of business as I snap some pics and maybe some short vids. After we swipe any faces and identifying marks then double check there are no face pics or anything in the background the guy usually gets a set of hot pics and new friends outta the deal.

In total agreement about taking your time to get to know other people and good luck in finding what makes the both of you happy

 

[dandb]

We have met 6 different men we had initial contact through online sites. Not all of them turned into what most would consider a home run but we consider none of them were a waste of time. We have always had fun, and the excitement of what be happening later that evening along with the anticipation is better then sitting at home on a Saturday night. Maybe it is the time we put in before the meet. Communicating through emails and texts then talking on the phone prior to the meet. The ones who do not show up are the ones who missed out. We have also had people online who ay they do not want to message alot or endless chains of emails. This is not what we want either and I am sure there are many people who have no real intentions of meeting who string people along.
When we start emailing and texting they always progress as time goes on. Meaning once contact is made we usually find out the basic information about someone like age, location, likes and dislikes. Then we move on to more personal stuff like what they like in they bedroom and how much experience they have. Next we exchange face pics and possibly more and if all agree we set up a date, time, and place to meet. If someone doesn't want to have that type of minimal back and forth it makes me wonder if they are legit. Especially when all they ask for are pics everytime. It is good to know what the person you are talking to looks like and maybe a few to peak interest but that's about all that is needed to decide if they are someone you want to see in real world settings. If they constantly ask to see pics of boobs and pussy pics that is a red flag.

 

[SecretPlayWife]

It's a lot of work to confirm and reconfirm arrivals. I prep myself and my place, cancel any other plans, hold off eating, and then.... no show.

Happens with about 1/3 of the guys who confirm they are definitely coming over.

 

[biggrasp]

It's a lot of work to confirm and reconfirm arrivals. I prep myself and my place, cancel any other plans, hold off eating, and then.... no show.

Happens with about 1/3 of the guys who confirm they are definitely coming over.

I'd definitely show up if we had plans to meet

 

[biggrasp]

We have met 6 different men we had initial contact through online sites. Not all of them turned into what most would consider a home run but we consider none of them were a waste of time. We have always had fun, and the excitement of what be happening later that evening along with the anticipation is better then sitting at home on a Saturday night. Maybe it is the time we put in before the meet. Communicating through emails and texts then talking on the phone prior to the meet. The ones who do not show up are the ones who missed out. We have also had people online who ay they do not want to message alot or endless chains of emails. This is not what we want either and I am sure there are many people who have no real intentions of meeting who string people along.
When we start emailing and texting they always progress as time goes on. Meaning once contact is made we usually find out the basic information about someone like age, location, likes and dislikes. Then we move on to more personal stuff like what they like in they bedroom and how much experience they have. Next we exchange face pics and possibly more and if all agree we set up a date, time, and place to meet. If someone doesn't want to have that type of minimal back and forth it makes me wonder if they are legit. Especially when all they ask for are pics everytime. It is good to know what the person you are talking to looks like and maybe a few to peak interest but that's about all that is needed to decide if they are someone you want to see in real world settings. If they constantly ask to see pics of boobs and pussy pics that is a red flag.

Sounds like y'all get the run arounds often. If you were in Tx, we wouldn't have a problem meeting! I've met so many couples and singles. Both for pleasure and regular fun stuff. I hate when I get stood up! It sucks...

 

[MOGAMBO]

Hey Guys, New to the forum here.

I haven't seen any topics dedicated to this and i wanted to get some opinions on this and give mine.

So about five years ago I was invited to a gang bang set up by a couple. If I remember right they were new to swinging and this was their Second maybe third set up. After corresponding with them by email they told me That there were going to be 15 or 20 men present and that it was going to be an all out wild time.

So the day comes and I show up and she has her den all set up. Long story short two other men show up. I felt bad for them because it was obviously a big let down. I mean I had a great time and she ended up having a good time but still.

I've come to find out this is very common and that surprised me. Guys are such horn dogs and here are available nsa women and they can't get men to follow through.

So I've come to a couple conclusions, a) the guys are lying to begin with, b) they are married or whatever and can't get out the house or c) they're just plain scared.

What do you guys and gals think?

Not exactly same but similar experience. A gang bang for my wife organised with 5 men as my wife said she may not be able to handle more than 5 as it was the first time. In reality, 3 turned up & one guy became so nervous that he could not get his erection. He was married guy with ******* but he could not perform because of anxiety so ended up with threesome instead of gang bang

 

[KRG]

Reading the responses here makes me realize how incredibly lucky I have been in this lifestyle (well I guess "we" in terms of the ex).

We never had to place an ad or join any sites and weed through fakes and flakes.

We met a couple at a local tattoo show and they in turn introduced us to a couple of swing clubs which led us to 3 great guys, who in turn introduced us to some of their friends. We never had an issue arranging dates with a singular guy or even 5 guys for that much sought after gb. They remain good friends to both of us even now.

Our lifestyle cruise was the same way save for 2 guys we didn't click with before the cruise even got started. But they were present and had everything we had asked for.

I sincerely hope I have the same level of success with my lady as we go along given the friends I have already made in the lifestyle.

I would be beyond frustrated if even half the ******* happened to me that I have read here!

 

[Cuck2AsianWife]

We have plenty of the same experiences. However the flakes and the fakes make those with something to offer and real with great traits, the absolute best!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[SwingingMounders]

Been there dealt with that. Two no shows and the third guy seemed to timid to want to do anything. I think it takes a special level of ballsy to slide it into somebody's woman while they watch. Idea of it is appealing but i can understand the cold feet when it's all in person.

 

[Cuck2AsianWife]

Been there dealt with that. Two no shows and the third guy seemed to timid to want to do anything. I think it takes a special level of ballsy to slide it into somebody's woman while they watch. Idea of it is appealing but i can understand the cold feet when it's all in person.

But then there is the ones that only want to shoot and go without contact or even socializing. I guess, different strokes for different folks. My wife laughs till she gets tears in her eyes with the ones that ask the hotel room number and ask us to throw the dead bolt over so they could just enter without knocking when they arrive. Someone has to explain that one to me???

 

[SwingingMounders]

As a side note, the best early indicator we have for flake is people who tell us they're in real estate... Must've heard it a million times, nothing but property moguls as far as the eye could see. I'd like to hear McDonald's Cashier from somebody at least once, cause that level of honesty probably means he'll walk the walk.

 

[dizzy]

Hey Guys, New to the forum here.

I haven't seen any topics dedicated to this and i wanted to get some opinions on this and give mine.

So about five years ago I was invited to a gang bang set up by a couple. If I remember right they were new to swinging and this was their Second maybe third set up. After corresponding with them by email they told me That there were going to be 15 or 20 men present and that it was going to be an all out wild time.

So the day comes and I show up and she has her den all set up. Long story short two other men show up. I felt bad for them because it was obviously a big let down. I mean I had a great time and she ended up having a good time but still.

I've come to find out this is very common and that surprised me. Guys are such horn dogs and here are available nsa women and they can't get men to follow through.

So I've come to a couple conclusions, a) the guys are lying to begin with, b) they are married or whatever and can't get out the house or c) they're just plain scared.

What do you guys and gals think?

I found out from my past experience the couple or ppl I set things up with end up not responding when it comes time to give out the details