My wife and I are on a level plane when it comes to any sex, unless one of us chooses to “play” a certain role. Bbc is just one aspect of are sex life, I know for some it’s truly a lifestyle but for us I guess it more of a hobby. We will go months sometimes without anyone else coming into the bedroom. We do a lot of bdsm, role playing and etc. as well. And when we do play with other men it’s for everyone’s pleasure, there’s no degradation for anyone unless that’s what they want. Men come over to please her, which pleases me as well and works out for everyone.