Most of us are raised with the judgment of being "sluts" if we put it out there outside of a monogamous marriage. Societal pressure is a strong deterrent. More than that, there is a question of stability and jealousy in a relationship. Not everybody can release the jealous need to control their partner and enjoy the excitement of a cuckold lifestyle. Third, There is a real danger in bringing a new person into a relationship. You can't guarantee what you will be getting as far as disease or dysfunction. Fourth, this site is very biased to the black male heterosexual with a white wife dynamic. I can tell you for a fact that the fantasy is not always precisely the way we imagine it. The white husband usually imagines more involvement than the white wife or the black man are willing to give him. Not every black man is as dominant or physically endowed as the porn industry portrays him. Finally, not every woman wants to be the center of a gangbang 7 nights a week or even a menage au trois one night a week. While a little experimentation can be exciting once in a long while, the lifestyle just might be more than many can handle.
"The white husband usually imagines more involvement than the white wife or the black man are willing to give him"
Great point, I'm glad someone finally brought this up because its super important and can make or break a good cuckold experience for a cuck husband. This particular aspect must be negotiated with the wife and the lover before they start and the rules and boundaries have to be respected or divorce is likely. I've been left out and its not fun. In a way, a cuckold relationship is a threesome - the cuck has a say and a right to be involved or it just doesn't work.
A cuck may want to be left out sexually while the wife is with a Bull but he MUST be part of the arrangement be it serving them, cleaning them, watching, or just re-connecting with his wife after she has been with another man. Ideally, all three will discuss the relationship on a regular basis because what happens more than people know is that if a wife chooses a long term bull, they will eventually develop emotional feelings for each other and they will not want the cuck around when they are together. It is natural for this to happen so a couple MUST be aware of it and guard against it getting out of control and this may be one of the reasons more women don't get into cuckolding as they are aware of how easy it is to fall in love and they don't want to risk their marriage for a kink or fetish.
As long as the wife can love both at the same time and remain loyal to her husband and not leave him for her bull, and the cuck can handle the fact that through negotiation, he is not going to be allowed to be a part of their sexual intimacy, it will work but it may be like that for years. This is actually the type of relationship I want with a cuckoldress. I'm willing to let her be His woman for long periods of time as long as she is still committed to our relationship and loves me. A married couple must find time and reason to connect outside of her lover/s.
Sure, she can be with a Bull anytime she wants, for as long as she wants, but she must remember she has a husband who loves her enough to give her other men and she needs to appreciate what her cuck has given up for her. Its doesn't take much, just a some affection and good communication on a weekly basis at least.
I think a good understanding of Polyamory and BDSM protocol is good education for a cuckold relationship. The wife can learn the dynamics and rules of Polyamory and the hubby can learn how to deal with jealousy. BDSM protocol in relation to rules, boundaries, the concept of a safe word, negotiation, etc is good knowledge that can be applied in a cuckold relationship too as it can help keep it all safe, sane and satisfying. BDSM protocol also helps everyone see how a cuckold relationship can be a series of 'scenes' rather than a 24/7/365 lifestyle that only the truly solid marriages can endure. We cucks must remember that this is a fetish or a kink. REAL cuckolding is the result of an unhappy wife cheating on her husband secretly because she is unhappy. What we are trying to do is create a simulation of the real thing but its not real. No one wants to really be cuckolded.
The lesson I learned is to be the best husband you can possibly be, serving your wife as a Goddess 24/7/365, respecting her, listening to her and being kind and generous to her and she will play ANY game with you such as cuckolding and you won't ever have to worry about her leaving you for another man.
When the wife starts hiding her texts and phone calls from cuck hubby, because she has deep emotional feelings for her Bull, and she gets mad that you want to see what they text or talk about, then she is losing respect for cuck hubby and giving it to the Bull. Unless the wife reassures cuck hubby of her love and loyalty, cuck hubby is going to get emotionally hurt and may want to make her stop, but if her Bull is a fine, sexy well hung expert lover who can make her cum multiple times a night, afford to take her to Vegas and the Bahamas every month, she is NOT going to give that up. She has to keep her relationship with her Bull 100% transparent with cuck hubby. The Bull must understand and agree to make sure he does not break up the marriage. This is a real danger if the wife is super hot and sexy. A single Bull that falls in love with a Hotwife married to a Beta cuck can easily convince a less than happy wife to leave hubby especially if he is sexy, dominant and wealthy.
That happened to me so be sure your marriage is rock solid before you give her to a superior man for even one night. He might just take her from you and she might not be able to resist it.
