stargazer, first off, its hard to tell a whole lot about you because you haven't filled out your profile. Your avatar sends off a confusing message ... are you black or are you white?
If you're white, it appears you've affixed a black cock extension to your own.
What have you done thus far in finding what you want? What exactly do you want?
I live in NC and when I go to the malls I have no problem siting lots of black males holding hands and walking around with white girls. What observances have you seen? I travel to Atlanta a couple times a year, and see similar, there.