My wife is cheating on me. She hangs out with this older lady that likes black guys and they have ladies nights out. I've gone looking for them. So I found them at and R&B club. My wife, her friend and two other girls. The club was crowded and I thought for sure they would see me. It was heart wrenching seeing her flirt with the men... and she was talking and dancing with the ugliest and oldest guy there. She was the most beautiful girl in the club, dancing and carrying on with that old fart. I don't know what to do. I am crazy at times. I love her and I do not want to lose her. I saw her walk out with the group and the girls drove off together. So she does this with that friend of hers every so often. Its gotten worse. I caught her this past week with the old guy, by herself with him after work. He's like 20 years older than her at least! I look around in here and see that sexually this is all arousing, but I may lose my wife because I may not forgive her. I think sites like this are propogating these ideas.