1. Your analysis and conclusion is simply wrong. Nothing has stopped WM+BF relationships. If WMs and BFs really wanted each other, the WM+BF numbers would be MUCH higher.
BMs can't/won't stop them. WFs can't/won't stop them. WMs control the Fashion, Porn, and Media, and as such, shape and satisfy the desires of other WMs -- and BFs are at the very bottom of the 'WM wish list'.
Actually his analysis and conclusion are correct. Although your assertion that the media that feeds the desires of white males is owned by white males is correct, what you failed to acknowledge is that the media (Ebony, Jet, etc.) that does the same for Blacks is owned by Blacks and is a platform for expounding the views of those entities.
Your assumption that the porn industry is a good barometer for racial interest is flawed. It is simply that the particular market hasn’t been discovered yet. Until the marketing people realized the interest in BM/wf porn, there was very little to be found. The same with cuckold videos, Trans-Gender porn, cream pie videos, bukkake/facial porn, etc. These are now all fast sellers and growing markets. Until the marketeers “discover” the niche markets to cater to, they don’t waste money making the product.
Incidentally, the largest volume of porn produced caters to white gay males, so by your reasoning we must be mostly gay, which would be another reason Black women don’t have much interest in marrying us.
Black males, by virtue of having to interact with whites to a higher degree than Black females because of employment and education opportunities, have a greater chance of forming relationships with white females.
Black females being less active in those venues, as stay at homes would not only have less opportunity to interact and form relationships with white males, but would also be subject to continual exposure of the positions promoted by the Black media to a higher degree which expound a segregationist dogma that Blacks should only marry Blacks.
2. Comparison: WMs have no trouble snatching up and dating/marrying Asian Females -- in mass (ditto for Fashion, Porn, or Media attraction).
That is a poor comparison at best.
Unlike the bias against Blacks that developed in the USA over centuries, Asians, for the most part were able to assimilate into white America relatively easily and with little prejudice. Except for short term, localized discord such as the Chinese “coolie” railroad worker influx and the Japanese internment camps, Orientals were generally accepted and considered “exotic” whereas Blacks were reviled and thought to be sub-human: a higher form of ape.
Other than the sort of exceptions I mentioned, Asians could use the same restrooms, sit in the same areas on buses and trains and ******* from the same water fountains as whites. There was never a need to “bus” Asians to schools nor for them to march on Washington to demand basic civil rights and be considered part of the human race.
Centuries of distrust don’t get erased overnight. However, look at Europe and you will see interracial coupling in greater numbers among all groups, including Black females and white males. Could that be because of the great acceptance of racial equality at an earlier time than it occurred in the US?
3. Besides, if WMs and BFs were so 'into' each other, they would not be so angered about BM+WF relationships. They would simply leave BM+WF relationships unmolested and stop whining and scheming against it. We all know that WMs and BFs....hate BM+WF relationships!
I'm not sure if you personally know many BFs, but whenever BFs speak of liking a WM, its "He's cute for a white boy".
Again, erasing centuries of racial bias from people’s minds doesn’t happen overnight. It’s odd that except for children growing up in environments where they are taught to be biased, they tend to not really care much about reasons to be biased. They are more inclined to judge their peers by how they perceive them as an individual, are they a nice person.
In the USA, aside from the issues born of the slavery days, many white males have grown up in homes where the bias of the parents has carried over to their children. Many white fathers talk about other races in derogatory terms because of insecurities that developed in their youth, partly from their parents who worried about being displaced from their jobs because of the companies hiring Blacks that would work cheaper. It was easier for them all to buy into the racist crap sold by the KKK, Nazi and other groups claiming that other races (Blacks, Jews, etc.) were the root of the white man’s problems than it was to follow the money and look for the real cause of the problems.
Just as the bias against Blacks took centuries to become rooted in the insecurities of white America, hundreds of years of being mistreated by white men created the same prejudice in Blacks, especially Black women who were subjected to the horror of being raped by whites without recrimination.
Between the recounting of the horrors that their mothers, aunts, grandmothers and so on were subjected to, as well as the anti-race mixing propaganda that they are fed by the Black media, it’s of little wonder why Black women have a lack of warm and fuzzy for white men.
However, as more Black women gain access to higher education, the work ******* and a more eclectic media to absorb knowledge from, they will also slowly lose their biases.
By the way, I’ve heard “he’s hot looking for a Black guy” from many white females in regard to Black actors and singers.
4. Typically when BFs speak of why they are "now open to dating a WM" (we've all heard this in the mainstream media over the past 3 yrs), the rationale always boils down to WM 'economic status' relative to hers or relative to BMs (job, credit, money, education). And, if you are keen, you will notice that BFs decision to "now be open to dating a WM" are always voiced with RELUCTANCE. You will be hard pressed to hear words such as "so handsome, so manly, so beautiful, so strong, so dominant, or takes my breath away".
Why should this be surprising in a country where the majority of wealth is in the hands of white males? Would not one expect white women to be attracted to Black men in higher numbers if Black men had most of the wealth in the US?
Don’t confuse physical and sexual attraction with the criteria that women subconsciously as well as consciously use when they are “nesting”. A woman looks to build and procure the best nest possible for her potential offspring and herself. Economic considerations are just part, albeit a big part, of the equation.
For the average heterosexual woman of any race a perfect marriage would consist of a strong, handsome, sexually attractive, successful male of the same race and religion, capable of providing an above average lifestyle, as well as protecting she and her children and making her feel desired. That is a pretty big bill of goods to fill. Luckily for men, women will modify that list and look for the things that are most important to them. Unfortunately, wealth is related to most of the things on that list.
Just as a butt ugly Black man becomes more attractive to a Black woman if he is successful, so does wealth help compensate for being white. No different than an Asian woman finding a successful white male attractive.
The biggest reluctance for many Black women is still the Black media promotion of building a strong Black America, with Black men and women marrying and becoming the core. The problem is that Black men aren’t buying into that as strongly, so “going white” starts to become an option to the Black woman desiring to improve her station in life, but this is a hard decision for them because they believe in the dream of a Black America.
Oh, while I hear "so handsome, so manly, so beautiful, so strong, so dominant, or takes my breath away" from my wife quite often (yes, she lies well (-: ) I rarely ever hear white women gush like that except over guys like Matthew McConaghey, who I’ve also heard Black women say the same things about so ….
5. And, here is the sad part...the BFs that say they are "now open to dating a WM" will tell you that WMs are NOT knocking on their door. The typical BF does not look like Alicia Keys or Gabrielle Union either in body type, facial features, or hair length. Rather, she looks more like Fantasia Barrino or Jennifer Hudson (pre-WeightWatchers and without the hair weave).
Of course they are not. White men aren’t going to go to where the Black women live to try to find them. Men of any race are inherently lazy when it comes to women. Men aren’t looking for a mate, they are looking for sex. They go to bars, dance clubs and other venues to pick up what they hope will be an easy conquest.
A woman’s chances at a meaningful relationship increase when she meets someone through common interests or work.
Just as the average Black woman doesn’t look like Alicia Keys or the new, extremely hot version of Jennifer Hudson (who I would have happily offered my tongue to when she was her Dream Girls version), the average white woman doesn’t look like Angelina Jolie or Marilyn Monroe either.
For every Shania Twain there is a Patsy Cline, for every Beyonce there is an Ella Fitzgerald and while they may not have been the prettiest women in the world, my life would be a whole lot drabber without the beauty that Patsy and Ella brought to it.
Maybe you are that fortunate, but when it comes to good looks there ain’t that many Brad Pitts, George Clunys, Shemar Moores or Billy Ds out here either, so be glad that women look at us a lot differently then we do them.
Point is, when it comes to physical beauty women and men come in all shapes and sizes and luckily there are those who are attracted to each for various reasons. I know men that wouldn’t look twice at a woman that weighed less than 200 pounds and women that don’t see you if you aren’t over 6 foot five.
Another big reason you don’t see many Black women and white guys getting together is the differences in culture. Until recently with the “wigga” phenomenon, there wasn’t a lot of crossing over culturally. Sure whites liked Motown and R&B, but they didn’t need to go to Black clubs to hear it, plenty of white groups played it in the clubs.
Blacks didn’t need to go to white clubs to hear Country & Western because … OK, maybe not the best comparison. (-; Nice to see Darius formerly Hootie following in Charlie Pride’s boot prints though.
For the few of us that love Jazz and the Blues, we do have to go where the music is and we do enjoy the friendship of people of all races that share those common interests. Now that I think of it, I do see about as many Black female/white male couples there as I do pretty much all other combinations, BUT it is an older, highly educated, middle class crowd so that would make sense.
I predict that as more Black women move into mainstream white America coupled with all the young white ******* getting into hip-hop and rap and emulating Black culture, you will most likely see an increase in interracial coupling both ways. Make that all four ways. Except for the few that make the news with their unwarranted hate, most ******* are a lot more accepting of gays and lesbians as well as of other races.
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