For my wife and I it is different. She was raised strict catholic and never had sex before we were married. After waiting 26 years, she was very excited to lose her virginity. But on our wedding night, she discovered the truth about me. While I have a nice 7 1/2 “ cock, with decent thickness, I cum within 10 seconds of sticking my cock in my wife’s pussy. I was never able to ever last longer than 10 seconds. She became extremely frustrated which led us to swinging, where she hooked up with other men while I watched and jerked off, to transitioning to dominant black men with 9” + cocks. What turned her on the very most, was when her black bulls would verbally and physically degrade me, while they were using all her holes. This turned her on greatly. She loved the fact that her “real men”, her black lovers who satisfied her sexually were putting me in my place. Basically she loved seeing them punish me for being inadequate sexually. We have now been married for over 30 years and she has fucked more than 300 black men. All raw.