What can I expect?

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Bamagirl1981, Dec 16, 2013.

  1. Bamagirl1981

    Bamagirl1981 Active Member Real Person Gold Member

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    So I am looking for my first experience with a BBC. My hubby wants to watch but we are not into the whole cuckolding thing where my hubby is degraded or humiliated. Can I expect to find anyone that won't do that?
     
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  2. Mariposa blanca

    Mariposa blanca Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    I'm sure you will. We aren't into humiliation-type activities either.

    My hubby has never watched me, but if he ever wanted to, the guy I most recently have been playing with would be fine with him watching, and would not treat him with any disrespect. If I can find one, they must exist. You may have to be very specific in stating upfront what you're not willing to put up with, but it is not impossible. And stick to your guns. If the guy says he will abide by your wishes, and then crosses the line, tell him that playtime is over. Do NOT put up with anyone forcing you beyond the limits that YOU and YOUR HUSBAND set TOGETHER.

    Good luck!
     
  3. bm_from_southjersey

    bm_from_southjersey Administrator Staff Member Real Person Gold Member

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    Yes, you can find guys that will respect the limits that you set forth, so long as you take your time and get to know the person first and not hop into the sack with them after the first time you skype or chat with them. As Mariposa said, you and your husband need to set ground rules and those have to be non-negotiable. If you find a guy that you think is suitable but he can't abide by your rules then move on and find somebody else.

    Best wishes in your pursuits.
     
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  4. Bamagirl1981

    Bamagirl1981 Active Member Real Person Gold Member

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    Thank you all for the replies!
     
  5. nycblackbull

    nycblackbull Active Member Real Person

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    thats a lucky bbc for sure.... getttin to play with all that ass.....mmmmmmmmmmm
     
  6. JenniferGA

    JenniferGA Member

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    Set clear boundaries with whomever you're with, and if they don't respect that, then they weren't worth your time.
     
  7. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Bamagirl, just try to keep in mind that the reason the two of you decide to get into these activities is to enhance the relationship you have with each other, not to establish a relationship with another man. My wife and I have a general rule that we don't go off individually with other people. We might have a couple drinks with someone after work, but that's where we stop until the other partner (either her or me) is involved. That can be as simple as her inviting me to join them for drinks or dinner. Its a way we use to get all 3 of us tuned into each other. Keeping everything on top of the table makes sure everyone understands the rules. Its got to work for both, or it won't help your relationship with each other ... and THAT'S what doing this is all about, really! Good luck ... Mac
     
  8. cps

    cps Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    This was my concern at first too as we are definately not into the humiliation or cuckhold aspect. Fortunately, we found a lover for me who understands and respects our relationship and boundaries. You and your hubby have to decide what is acceptable for you guys, establish your boundaries, and never budge until you talk about it. Period.

    It has been wonderful for us, my hubby loves watching me and I love him watching. It is very erotic for all of us. But we met with my lover 3 times to talk about things before we met the first time for sex.