Despite the common belief that the bull is in control and the husband is made a fool of as his wife gets pounded by the horse-hung black stud, most encounters, in my experience, have been initiated by myself, with my wife's approval. Most commonly the bull has to be reassured that it is cool and that he is free to fuck my wife while I sit and watch. Sure, there are a few who know the lifestyle and participate freely, but not most. Typically when we approach a potential bull and tell him what we what, he is pretty unsure of what he is getting into, although we are usually able to convince him to indulge us. Many times the encounters are directed by my wife who tells him what to do and has to reassure him that it is okay. I guess its not easy to fuck a woman while her husband watches. We've had several who have been unable to get or keep it up during the encounter so I have to leave the room and allow Jill to work her magic, which she is always able to do! What about your experiences?