this is killing me not starting 100 posts today..

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by vanessabbc, Apr 28, 2015.

  1. vanessabbc

    vanessabbc Active Member

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    I have been stuck at home all day. I have cleaned everything I can clean, I have done yoga I have damced around the house singing to the top of my lungs. Normally I would have started 100 threads here but some of you fuckers got to me about that. lol
     
  2. helpgetherthere

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    Just couldn't help yourself? I say fuck'em and post all you want to. Some of us love reading your random thoughts. :)
     
  3. Splitter

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    How much does your husband make?
     
  4. vanessabbc

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    lol, whut?
     
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  5. tulsaslut2

    tulsaslut2 Well-Known Member

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    Hey, I like reading your posts
     
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  6. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    vanessa, have you ever done any charitable or volunteer work? If you want something that will give you a very unique sense of satisfaction and accomplishmentt, you might should look into those areas. You have the looks, obviously, that would make you readily acceptable with the people you would be helping. Its a "different kind of feel good HIGH" that I believe you might would enjoy.
    Mac
     
  7. tulsaslut2

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    Vanessa, go for the BBC. You last person you want to listen to is a wannabe cuck.
     
  8. helpgetherthere

    helpgetherthere Active Member

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    I would think most wannabe cucks would be rooting for her to go for it. She has a lot she could loose and to think about.
     
  9. iluvwfintobm

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    Post all you like Vanessa. You keep the site active by keeping the people involved. Many of us love reading your posts, and you keep them real instead of over-exaggerated fantasies. If people don't like your posts, they can easily move on to the next post. If they are abusive, just click on the Report link and let the admins take care of them. :)
     
  10. vanessabbc

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    I do stuff to help out the kids a lot, either through school or girlscouts, baking stuff, chaperoningf etc...stuff like that and and I will voluteer to read books aloud to kids at the library, lol.
    I have just been stuck at home for a couple of days because my SUV's check engine light is on and hubby has been too busy to look at it.
     
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  11. vanessabbc

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    well, I won't post hubbys personal business on here but he makes enough for me. Comfortable home, plenty of food, bills paid on time, a little in the bank. No holes in my socks.... I just don't understand the question I guess, lol
     
  12. vanessabbc

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    Nahh, no one has been abusive I was just having fun with it. :)
     
  13. Splitter

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    If I was your husband -- working my ass off to pay for my family -- and I found out you were attention whoring on a site like this, I'd be extremely upset.

    Save the guilt. It's not about the guilt. The point is there are serious issues in your marriage. Sounds like he's not giving you enough attention.

    But it also sounds like you're bored. Is he boring you or are you not challenging yourself? Likely both.

    Right now you're just being pretty and stroking your ego, soliciting attention from objects of your desire. In that way you are emotion ally cheating in a small, but significant, way.
     
  14. vanessabbc

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    well, I'm not attention whoring. I genuinely like people and like talking. I also don't need my ego stroked although I admit, this has been a very kind place to me and a girl never gets tired of being called pretty.

    I can understand your comments about it being a form of cheating. I agree. Its something I am not proud of. I agree my husband would have every right to be upset. but I am going to be having the same thoughts wether I'm online or not so what can I do? He has a strong feeling about not wanting me to work and I just left the very part time job I had.

    I just want to be friends.just want to goof off, be silly. have sopme fun after the breakfasts arehad and the house is cleaned.sometimes I talk about boring ordinary things because that's all I have to talk about. I dunno.
     
  15. Splitter

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    You're not 100% attention whoring, but there's clearly an element at play there. Otherwise you wouldn't have your picture on here. You know how guys are. You're also actively flirting with Black men and turning yourself on, and allowing others to turn you on. How would you feel if he was secretly texting a chick, telling her how horny he is thinking about her?

    "He has a strong feeling about not wanting me to work and I just left the very part time job I had."

    What are your feelings about work?

    "sometimes I talk about boring ordinary things because that's all I have to talk about. I dunno."

    You are obviously seeking more. Of what? Part of being a human, and not just an animal, is becoming aware of the more that we want and consciously directing that energy upward, toward ideals and higher resonance, rather than downward, toward base senses, mindless sexuality, and fear.
     
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  16. vanessabbc

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    I cannot argue with any of this.
    How do I feel about work? I don't mind it. it keeps me occupied and I like being around people. I have had terrible jobs that I hated. I won't lie.

    If he werer doing what I was doing, yes I woulld be furious, hurt, broken, diminished and yes, cheated on. I admit it, what I an doing is wrong. But saying that and stopping that are different things. Maybe I do need help. I don't know what to think half the time, babe.
     
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  17. James Blackmon

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    Why is everyone on this site so critical of others? We are supposed to be here to support B2W!

    Vanessa is not hurting anyone....we all have fantasies, flirt and almost every guy out there looks at porn....does not mean they are totally disrespecting their significant other ...it is when you cross that line between thoughts (and we all fucking have them) and actions that it becomes an issue. If you don't like someone's post simply ignore it and move on. If you feel you must comment on a post--let's try to stay away from passive aggressive labels such as "attention whoring".
     
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  18. Splitter

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    Attention whoring isn't passive aggressive. It's calling a spade a spade.

    Passive aggressive is stating or asking a general question when you are clearly alluding to a certain poster.

    You know, like exactly what your post did. (Gee, do I have to spell it out?)

    If you prefer I will take your advice and add you to my ignore list. I'm not addressing you and this isnt about you. It's about something bigger than you and me, bigger than some sexual fantasies and fetishes. It's for grown people, by grown people.

    Re Vanessa,

    Have you and your husband discussed why you aren't working / why he doesn't want you to work? I mean, to me that's so 1960s. Work is (or can be) fulfilling. Why not?
     
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  19. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Splitter, I don't often extend compliments, but I really do enjoy reading your earthy "stay in touch with reality" type comments. Having been here as long as I have, I can assure you that you won't make a ton of friends as you burst their bubbles of fantasy, but sometimes a reality opinion or two seems appropriate to bring the really naïve individuals back to what's real, particularly when its of a topic that is serious as marriage (cheating), breeding, etc.

    As far as Vanessa goes, Vanessa, you should enjoy your fantasy play, however some of comments do hint to possible issues within your marriage (my opinion mind you). In a good marriage couples should be able to discuss issues, but that's more difficult to establish than one might think. We don't really know anything about your real situation other than what you share here, but I believe Splitter has more good intentions regarding your marriage than you might think.
    Personally, I'm rooting for you, sweetheart ... stay level and have fun.
    Mac
     
  20. white thighs

    white thighs New Member

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    Cut Vanessa some slack I'm new on here but let the girl live I mean this is black to white. She is a beautiful white woman curious about black men and we should support her
     
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