I didnt know that was jumping the gun, I found this site after buying the black dildo
@Mj2008 ok let me simplify this for you.
1. you stopped having sex with your wife
2. you bought her a black dildo
3. you found this site
4. you are asking for advice
#4 should have been your first decision, and what do you want advice on? your wife isn't going to fulfill your fantasy if you are withholding sex from her for no reason. think about it - you aren't making very intelligent decisions.