The Science of Cuckold Marriages

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Is Cuckold Marriage better than Normal (Alpha male) Marriage ?

  1. Yes (Cuckold Marriage is better)

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  2. No (Male Dominated Marriage is better)

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  1. Sana Alam

    Sana Alam Member

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    The Science of Cuckold Marriages

    By sex therapist & relationships counselor Susan Gower


    http://iplayhewaits.blogspot.com/p/science-of-cuckold-marriages-by-susan.html


    After studying human sexuality for many years it has become inarguable to me that a cuckold relationship (in which the wife engages in sexual activity with a variety of men while her husband remains faithful) is most compatible with basic human evolutionary make up. It is straying from this evolutionarily grounded human bonding relationship that has produced such misunderstandings and conflict between the sexes.

    At the very base of this principle is the understanding of a woman’s psychological need for a variety of sex partners. Women are literally hardwired differently than men. A woman has a dual sex drive.

    The first is centered on finding a mate for life to help support her and her offspring. This is why (and when) love is such an important part of a women’s sexual desire. The second is a desire to obtain a variety of the best genetic material to produce the healthiest children. This second desire becomes stronger once a woman has secured her life mate, and grows stronger as time with him progresses.

    Eventually, this more powerful drive can exceed her sexual desire for her life mate. This is essentially why a woman’s sexual desire for her husband is well known to diminish over time. At the same, it is normal for her to feel a subtle but very real increase in her sexual desire for other men. With the creation of a stable home environment in which to raise her children, there is a clear physiological shift toward a woman’s desire to mate with the best man (or men) available to her, for their contribution of superior genetic material. This natural fact does not make her immoral, or mean that she no longer loves her husband. It is simply part of her basic instinctive code.

    Contrary to societal contrivances to the contrary, these physiological sexual differences between men and women also seem to support the cuckold relationship as one ideal for a marital relationship. It is well known that women don’t reach her sexual peak until they are in their thirties, while men peak by the time they are twenty. In a typical marriage, a wife is generally younger than her husband or the same age. As a result, a woman’s increasing sexual appetite, due to her biological age, creates stronger sexual drives than her husband as they mature. As a marriage continues through the years, this discrepancy in sexual drives increases, sometimes to the point of a wife finding little or no sexual satisfaction with her husband, and secretly contemplating or turning to extramarital encounters.

    Nature reinforces this physical need by providing women with the ability to experience a far greater quantity, intensity, and variety of sexual orgasms than men. This is nature’s way of motivating a woman to seek out sexual activity, even at the risk of being caught by her life mate. Women experience a diversity of orgasms, including clitoral and vaginal. Additionally, women have the ability for multiple orgasms. While this simple pleasure is often recognized as the result of efforts by the woman's partner, it has been theorized that this trait actually is a natural function designed to allow a woman to participate and enjoy sex with multiple partners over a short period of time.

    On the other hand, men are far simpler sexually. His sex drive will simply grow stronger the longer he goes without sex, with a singular, simplistic orgasm resulting. Since he needs a consenting female in order to engage in sex, his sexual desire for her is directly linked her consent. Over time his need for sexual release can become overwhelming, and his desire to gain her consent by pleasing her increases proportionally to a level of sexual frustration. He is content mating with any female he finds desirable, and is perfectly capable of being content with having sex with the same female for life, providing certain motivations are provided.

    Furthermore, men can get nearly the same level of satisfaction from masturbating or oral sex as the do completing a sex act with a woman, as their release is primarily physical. For women however, masturbation and oral sex provide a less satisfying relief. Women require the participation of a sex partner in order to be more fully satisfied, both psychologically and emotionally.

    There have been numerous clinical studies documenting positive emotional responses to the presence of male sperm in the female vagina. Theory suggests that certain hormones contained in the seminal deposit illicit both physical and emotional changes in a woman's own hormone levels. While not completely understood, these studies do support the theory that a woman's most satisfying sexual experiences result from intercourse with a male, together with an ejaculatory episode.

    One might think that these conditions present arguments for an open marriage in which both a wife and her husband find sexual partners outside their marriage. But the idea of open marriage assumes the erroneous notion that men require a variety of sex partners, and that women are tolerant of their men mating with others. However, neither assumption is typical.

    While the evidence clearly suggests that a married woman is instinctively inclined to seek a variety of sexual partners, a man has a sexual drive that is easily manipulated and can be satisfied by a single partner.
    The genetic programming that drives a man is largely based on the thrill of pursuit, not the need for variety. Men are designed to compete. They compete in every aspect of life. Not only do they compete in their workplace, but they compete even in their hobbies. It's hardly incidental that men enjoy watching or participating in sporting events.

    Most importantly though, men compete for their female. Husbands who’s desire for their wives have waned, and perhaps shifted their interest to other women, can be completely reversed with the introduction of a competing male.

    In study after study, married men responded consistently when exposed to stimuli that include another man's attention to the wife. This trigger awakens their instincts to compete and they literally rise to the occasion. Their focus reverts solely back to their wives, and they lose interest in other women. The wives in some studies were able to deliberately vary their husband’s level of interest through increasing or decreasing their interaction with other men. It was further found that when these same wives reverted back to traditional sexual practices with their husbands, their husbands began to lose interest in them, and again showed interest in other women as possible sex partners. The mere possibility of competing for her with another man consistently and predictably reinvigorates his desire in a man. Common belief holds that men are born to cheat. However these studies clearly show that men are born to compete.

    In one study (Hill, Leeson, 2004), there is also a clear correlation between sexual desire and the absence of the woman from the relationship, supporting the age-old axiom that “absence makes the heart grow fonder”. This pattern introduces a possible correlation between sexual denial and resultant arousal. An extended absence makes more than just the heart grow. It dramatically increases the need of a male to mate with his partner.

    The introduction of the possibility of the woman straying sexually during her absence invoked a much stronger response in the male, to the point that it totally altered his behavior. This study supports the belief that men can indeed become physically aroused by the mere possibility of their wife cheating on them in their absence, which is actually one of the cornerstones of the Cuckold lifestyle.

    Once a husband feels these competitive forces awaken within him, he becomes singularly focused on pleasing his wife, and seeking her constant approval and sexual consent. This is yet another simple concept that drives the Cuckold relationship. Even in relationships where the couple may not recognize why it occurs, it usually doesn't take long for them to recognize how it can affect their intimate relationship.

    Husbands will readily and predictably respond to the threat of competition, whether real or imagined. A wife can use that competition to help mold a sexual relationship that proves sexually satisfying to both of them, while insuring relationship stability and her husband's fidelity all at the same time.

    The involvement of another male into the relationship has another benefit, other than the obvious sexual benefits to the wife and the resultant stability to the relationship. Some men expressed relief that their wife was being satisfied by another, being relieved of the pressure to perform as her primary sex partner. The older the husband becomes, the more this motivation is mentioned.

    Our modern morals and the roles imposed both sexes by society are not only aberrant behavior given our genetic makeup, but psychologically unhealthy. It is unfair that a woman is forced to repress her natural sex drive, which is genetically embedded. Doing so places undue strain on what is viewed by society as the “traditional” marriage and surely contributes to the rate of marriage failures. We've created a society in which women often struggle with guilt and frustration over their natural sexual needs. Perhaps it is time to consider embracing the Cuckold lifestyle as a natural relationship.

    Indeed, I believe that I may have saved marriages in my practice by reassuring couples that had explored the practice of cuckoldry. I have seen female patients rediscover a side of themselves they thought was lost, becoming more centered, calm and confident in both themselves and their marriage.

    Similarly, once a husband gets past his initial concerns, they become calmer and more focused on the relationship. Rather than seeking the temptation of satisfaction outside the marriage, they soon derive all of their sexual needs from and through their wife and her extramarital liaisons.

    Introducing the competitive aspect of another man into a Cuckold marriage, a woman can readily alter her husband's behavior back to the days when the relationship was new. Husbands become more focused on their wife, and maintain a higher state of arousal for her, and attention to her, once the possibility of another man enters the relationship.

    Last, Cuckold marriages can evolve into a great variety of preferences. In my own practice I have seen them range from those in which cuckolding wives enjoy dating in private, to those who enjoy having sex with other men in front of her husband, and just about everything in between. However, almost all the couples in my practice have very loving marriages with a playful sense of arousal that seem conventional in every way except that the wife sees other men, while her husband remains monogamous and faithful to her.
     
  2. Sana Alam

    Sana Alam Member

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    I created a poll, for you people to give your opinions that what kind of marriage is better , cuckold marriage or traditional marriage ?
     
  3. cuckyboi4BBC

    cuckyboi4BBC Well-Known Member Real Person

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    A cuckold marriage with a cuckold ceremony and the wife being taken by BBC on her wedding night is perfect!
     
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  4. Pegramguy

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    Absolutely, though I am divorced for no reasons related to cuckoldry, my ex-wife and I both agreed (eventually) all attractive hot fine women need and deserve extra long, preferably black cocks from many men to fuck them and it's the husbands duty and price he pays to be married to that woman. Especially since, they are probably going to cheat anyways since they know their pussy is too good for just one man and that they can only be satisfied by random very hung cocks cumming inside them to satisfy their female desire to mate often with other men. The cherry and ultimate satisfaction for her and other hot wives and gf's is doing it with their man's permission and submission whether in front of them or with their blessing.
    Not so much with my gf's yet but moreso with my ex-wife, I enjoy presenting my wife to her studds and we both got off on my acceptance and willingness to help her get the best fuck possible as frequently as possible by my submission to him as our guest and her bull. White wives have no better pleasure than knowing their husbands accept and submit to their hung black cock and cum desire by holding their legs, telling them they love her while shes getting fucked and licking superior bulls cum from their pussy afterwards.
    My ex said holding my hand during and hearing me tell her how much I love her solidified her ability to enjoy her bulls hung cock inside her without guilt.
     
  5. Michaelnaples

    Michaelnaples Member

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    My marriage has definitely improved since i am letting my wife go Black whenevre she wants and i help her doing that
     
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  6. Science and interracial sex turns me on.
     
  7. BIGDENTON

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    have a question for the women 2 what if a man want's the roles reversed and want's you 2 watch him screw different women?? because he states that he is not satisfied with one woman and where do you stand on men in the Islamic culture that have many wife's harem's is that cool 2 maybe western men should take a leaf out of the book of these guy's?? he might be with you but he may also like women of other races maybe younger or older?? or even your friends just for sex?? he would always love you would that be ok with you??:)
     
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  8. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Although cuckolding is just one of many types of arrangements couples can have in establishing their sexual relationship, it only works when both sides are happy with the arrangement. Who's to say what kind of sexual relatonship is best for any one couple. Cuckolding is such a restrictive type of arrangement ... it only works for a limited number couples.
    With my wife and me, we look at the person we're getting involved with ... the gender, color, etc are really only a second level priority to us. One of the best relationships we ever had, (lasted over 3 years) actually involved a young, lady bartender from an Outback restaurant we frequent. Our kids (at the time 6 & 8) loved her because she would play with them and give them attention, thus we also utilized her as a babysitter when the wife & I went on extended, overnight trips. :)
     
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  9. willsrvu

    willsrvu Administrator Real Person Gold Member

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    This, in essence, is hijacking this thread. Please review the Forum Rules, especially rule #1 before posting further.

    Then, if you wish and are in compliance, please begin a new thread posing your questions.

    Thank you for your cooperation.
     
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  10. Bellaazz

    Bellaazz Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    Your post is well-thought out and in the case of my wife and I, EXACTLY what has happened. Our relationship, especially sexually was waning, once a month was about how often we'd have sex and even then it was a quick thing to "get it over with". But after we discovered cuckoldry, my wife has blossomed into having a renewed sexual energy and drive I never believed would have existed. I am extremely relieved that I no longer have to be her only sexual partner and source of satisfaction (after getting over the humiliation and jealousy of having another man satisfy her). And my attention to her has increased astronomically! She loves me and how I treat her and my main sexual focus is to please her and make sure she is pleased. I don't care if it is morally wrong or not "traditional". It works for us and she has come to enjoy me watching her with other men so much that it is our main sexual activity. The only thing for us is that we have to keep it all secret because we don't feel family, friends and society in general is ready for such a union and we don't want to be judged and our children looked down upon because of our sexual lifestyle.
     
  11. Hansjensen

    Hansjensen Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    It has absolutely enhanced our marriage that my wife cuckolds me with her black lover. There is now a lot more energy in our relationship - not only sexually but also in general.

    My wife is happy that she is being admired by two men who tell her what a beautiful women she is. She blossoms in a way she has never done before.

    We have never before been so close to each other spiritually.

    We embrace the interracial cuckold lifestyle and now my wife puts a lot of pressure on me because she wants to have a biracial baby by her lover. This would make her life complete, she says.

    I would also like to be father of a biracial boy or girl. We would have a great family where the baby is really wanted.

    I find the idea of having a black baby extremely attractive and I hope I will have the courage to let my wife have the baby that she so badly wants. C__Data_Users_DefApps_AppData_INTERNETEXPLORER_Temp_Saved Images_glorying.jpg
     
  12. Chip

    Chip Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    Even though cuckold, seems to work sexually, both my wives needed my support and security and needing to be a good father too. Would say overall traditional.
     
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    Its inevitable for a white mans wife to desire impregnation by the black man.
    This is because once a white couple accept a black male into their marriage it doesnt take long for the black male to take the alpha male status from the white male.
    Her natural desires for sex and breeding will then fall to her new black lover.
     
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  14. Hansjensen

    Hansjensen Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    Women want strong and healthy children, therefore my wife wants a baby by her black and dominant black lover. C__Data_Users_DefApps_AppData_INTERNETEXPLORER_Temp_Saved Images_1undraping.jpg
     
  15. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Women also want a man who's committed to them and family values; who's not womanizing every walking, white pussy within their eyesight. That's a commitment that some empowered, black males may find hard to stomach. Women don't like "sharing" their men, trust me on this. ;)
     
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  16. Hansjensen

    Hansjensen Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    Hi MacNfries, Thanks for posting. I have read a lot of your texts with pleasure. They have a lot of wisdom and many are very funny.

    My wife has a man who is committed to her and family values. That's me. I will take good care of our biracial baby. This is our baby. Therefore it will be my son or daughter.

    The bull does not want to take care of the baby when it's born. He it's turned on by white married females. He finds it very arousing to get white husband's wife pregnant and the let the white husband raise the kid.

    My wife doesn't share me with anyone
     
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  17. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Thank you, I try to be on both counts.
    It's nice to commit to this endeavor, especially since you and wifey would be partially responsible for the existence of this bi-racial baby. Imagine, just for a minute, that your marriage to your wife fails in the future, OR, that you prematurely die. Who picks up the slack for that baby?
    Of course, no surprise there, and therein lies the overall concern for growing illegitimacy in this country and the problems it creates.
    Your wife is not only typical, but practical. Cuckolding & wife sharing are hard for most women to even fathom.

    Best of luck with your good intentions ... I might suggest as a fail-safe, buy a 20 year, $500,000 decreasing term life policy on yourself the day she conceives. Really inexpensive, and resolves the concern of who picks up the slack. Mac
    And, thank you again for your following. pic_ThumbsUp.jpg
     
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  18. whitecockedhubby

    whitecockedhubby Active Member Gold Member

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    At least everyones happy i guess . White hubby eats and preps his wife for the black alpha male to fuck and seed his woman. White wifey cums on her black lovers cock each night. The Black man owns yet another married white pussy.
     
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  19. Bellaazz

    Bellaazz Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I have to agree that it is only natural that your wife wants to be bred by the alpha lover who happens to be her black bull. I've read that in many women, this desire can be overwhelmingly strong. The fact that you are will and able to support her and take care of the baby and that her lover is turned on by the thought of impregnating a white wife and have her hubby support his baby makes it a win-win-win if you are also turned on by that thought, which it seems from your posts that you are.
     
  20. Hansjensen

    Hansjensen Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I am INCREDIBLY turned on.
     
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